I’m 22F and have only had sex with two people, both of whom I only started having sex with after we were in an established relationship.
With both of those people we were open and explored and all that fun stuff, but i am now single again after three years and I am excited to explore casual sex with new people.
So I just wanted to see if there’s anything I should keep in mind as I do this. At the moment I’m using dating apps and my friend who is also newly single will be taking me on a night out to try and set me up soon. I’m excited to sleep with new people but also scared because I don’t know the rules and I am also scared of catching something. I of course would use a condom during PIV but I wouldn’t want to use one during oral (either way) just because of the taste honestly.
Another fear is that I am a woman and am scared of the chance that I could be hurt by any random man I go home with, so any advice on how to stay safe on that front would be very appreciated too (such as sharing my location with a friend etc)
Regarding “rules” for one night stands and meeting people in clubs and stuff like that, I’m in the uk (Scotland specifically) in case that affects anything.
Thank you in advance for any advice :)) it’s weird feeling sexually experienced but sexually clueless at the same time haha
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Best way to stay safe when coming home with someone ? Make sure someone else knows what you’re doing (a friend) and that your partner knows someone else knows.
Don’t make it obvious (that’s a mood killer) but you know, work it in the conversation
If you’re going home with somebody try to get the address and text it to a friend or somebody who you trust just in case something bad does happen, if he doesn’t want to give you his address then that’s a red flag. Other than that just always use protection, if something doesn’t seem safe then go with your instincts.
Great advice from others here..
You can say I will text my friend so she doesn’t call later and equally casually add.. Because she is a protective kind of a friend and worries about me or something like that..
As for being with a guy.. Your or his place.. I would make sure I don’t drink too much and have a clear head..
And share things you like to do and things that you are not comfortable with.. You can just work it into a conversation rather than stating it (so it’s not a mood killer)… Make a game out of it.. I will tell you a thing if you will kind of a way..this can happen on the way to your or his place..
It is astonishing how many people don’t communicate their likes and dislikes when it comes to sex..
Also, if something happens during sex that you don’t like, make it clear.. Ask to stop..
So many people write on these subreddits how they just went along but later regret not stopping or saying something!
Casual Sex & New People
2x Elements
The Raw Animal Act vs. Emotionally Powerfully led Act
Tinder Bumble etc – good way than clubs; but 1NS are hit n miss! Bad crowds, Good Guys/Girls pot luck!
You sound exactly like me when I was 22.
On the topic of oral without a condom, just a heads up: STI’s can be transmitted orally and symptoms are similar, so if you choose to go bareback, get tested regularly. It can be really unpleasant.
In general, apps work best for hook ups in my opinion, but if you go to a bar or club, make sure you have a friend with you of course. Watch your drinks. I’d book a hotel rather than going to the guy’s place, because it is a lot safer even if your friend knows where you are, but you need to decide what level of safety you are comfortable with.
Don’t overthink the whole thing though, enjoy that side of you, experiment, learn about your kinks and those of others. It will be a great and stimulating experience for you ❤️
Best sex in the world is the build up of fucking someone new and you feel that electricity before it happens.
Instead of asking for the address in advance, you can simply share your location with a friend.