Ever since my friend got into a relationship they haven’t really wanted to talk to me much. I feel like they only keep me in their life because they don’t want to hurt me. I’d like to ask them to call me so we can have a serious talk but they really don’t like talking about feelings so I don’t know what to say to make them open to the idea of calling to work things out. Any advice ?
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People always have other priorities in life besides you. The cold hard truth is you are not always going to be at the top of everybody’s minds. Good connections have moments of closeness and distance. BUT The more you keep chasing and worrying about other people, the more desperate and needy you become towards them, which forces them to not associate with you. People are hardwired to be repulsed by neediness and desperation and instead they gravitate towards somebody who is self confident and well rounded in life. Now is the time to learn how to be genuinely busy in your life pursuing your goals and hobbies, while interacting with other people on the side. You will build much needed self esteem and self confidence. The easiest way to get started is to find something you enjoy doing and keep doing it overtime. Chase excellence, not people.