How do you stop yourself from giving creeps a chance?

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1. know ur worth and keep them boundaries up

2. Just say no.

3. Realizing you don’t owe them shit, they are only interested in getting what they want so they prey on women whose boundaries they can trample on.

4. Remember the very high value of your time and attention. Both are too precious to waste on anyone or anything not “worth it”!

5. By not starting. You’re worth more than that.

6. If you think someone is watching you, poke your nose. If they react, they were stalking you. If they didn’t notice, you’re fine.

7. Tell them right the fuck away “I’m not interested in you in a romantic way, if you keep making me uncomfortable I’m dropping you from my life”

   And if it’s someone from work I report them ASAP.

8. I often think I should’ve asked my sister what she thinks about that guy. You need to ask someone who loves you for opinion, because thay can look at the situation more objectivly than you, so that can help. It happened a couple of times that I was gonna go on a date, and sister was like Ooooh my God noo what’s wrong with you don’t gooo, you can still change your mind he’s stupiiid. She was always right.

9. The moment you realize they’re creeps, save yourself and go away. Happened to me a few weeks ago with someone I “tried” to see. Damn nice guy was as a matter of fact a creep. Careful to all our ladies out there!!

10. Know that sometimes a manipulative person will make you feel like you would be the bad guy for saying no. You don’t owe anyone your time; it doesn’t matter if they’re ‘nice’ or not.

11. Don’t even bother engaging.

12. Don’t feel bad saying no EVER. If your gut says no, say no.

13. Learn what the red flags are – some people aren’t taught them (ex. using degrading language, not interested in you for your personality/only there because of your looks, doesn’t like being turned down)

    Know your self-worth and set boundaries – no, I don’t give my number to random men/strangers

14. My standards are unfortunately so low that I’m about to give a known cheater and womanizer a chance

15. By not being afraid to hurt their feelings. Obviously I never want to mean, if possible, but it’s important to be direct, even if that means it’ll hurt them a little.

16. Cut off creeps early if you’re uncomfortable. It’ll help you not deal with any further bs.

17. Whenever I’m tempted to indulge my “be nice” socialisation, I like to remind myself that it’s always infinitely better to be content on my own than to start something up with a creep (or worse) who’s more or less guaranteed to make me miserable.