So I have been seeing this person (M23) and I am F19, for about 10 months now. We were friends before we started sleeping together and he had plans on getting back with his ex girlfriend (who cheated on him) which is definitely not happening anymore. I was sleeping with someone else at the beginning who I didn’t have feelings for but 100% had feelings for this new guy even before I started sleeping with him.
I’m younger than him and got out of my first serious relationship a year and a half ago so I’m not even sure if I want to settle down with him, all I know is I like him a lot but he acts so hot and cold with me and I have no clue what he wants (which, I know, isn’t a great sign lol). We are so intimate and act like we are in a relationship that it is just so strange to me why we can’t just date and see where it goes…
We both have past relationship trauma but is this weird to not date? Should I bring it up with him or just keep going along? It is low-key eating at my self-esteem why he hasn’t asked me out, he’s introduced me to his friends, I’ve met his family and we spend so much time together, cuddle and do all that relationship-y stuff. I just dunno what I wanna do. I’d really appreciate some advice as it’s really draining me.
TIA 🙂
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Perhaps he is scared too. I think you should tell him.
Just tell him that you’d wanna go exclusive, see what he says back and you’re good to go 🙂
If you leave this eat you up from within you’ll grow resentful towards him just for his passivity which he was not prompted to interrupt. Just speak to him, you owe yourself that respect. And delaying days or weeks won’t help it in anyway. This is how you feel and he needs to know so he can make up his mind. Otherwise there will be no progress..
I know this talk is hard and scary, but he should be mature enough to be able to have it and give you the info you need.