my boyfriend and I had a fight yesterday on our graduation day. Some people I had a falling out with were physically pushing him around, apparently jokingly- but I had no idea. So I went up and asked him if “these bitches wanted anything” they ofcourse repeated that sarcastically, and then proceeded to question why I felt the need to make a big deal today, out of all days. I then said that it’s valid because they had all been saying nasty things about me for the past few weeks. They then took the liberty to make fun of my lack of college acceptances, right in front of my boyfriend. And then went around and asked anyone if they actually believed I got into any schools. I then made a comment how they can’t act all mighty when they only got in for having an easy major. I told one of them who I had been friends with for 12 years to go fuck themselves and then I walked away crying. When I walked away I was comforted by my boyfriend, but I kept telling him to go hang out with some of his other friends so that I didn’t ruin his day simply because I had already ruined mine. He said no, and then I proceeded to tell him that if he stayed friends with that girl who made fun of me for not getting into the school and saying I’m controlling him not to be friends with her then I would be done with him. We then walked away and graduated. I went home alone and bawled for hours, he didn’t want to see me that night and when I asked him if he wanted to break up with me he said he didn’t know. I tried to explain that I said those things in the heat of the moment, and there is no excuse for them other than I’m sorry, And I promised to never give an ultimatum again. When I would tell him that I loved him and that our relationship meant so much to me he wouldn’t say I love you back. He didn’t say it once that night, he even didn’t say Goodnight. When I would ask him again if he was going to break up with me he wouldn’t have an answer. That he didn’t know anymore. I haven’t been able to sleep for several hours. Please someone give me some advice, I love this man so much but I don’t know if he wants to be with me anymore after that.
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It might be best for both of you to start this new chapter in your lives having graduated and being single for a while to learn from your mistakes.
I still hate my girlfriend when she feels the need to end a conversation by giving me the old fashioned ultimatum threatening me to go our separate ways if something doesn’t change. I simply deem these situations worth being called infantile and only properly contextualized in early primary school when you give your “relationship” no particular meaning. That said, if he really loves you he would not be leaving you for this, and that is assuming that giving an ultimatum isn’t an habit of yours. If he’s bothered, give him time, if he is way too bothered it might be that is just a pretext to end something he doesn’t want be involved with.
Like I mentioned in the beginning, my girlfriend developed this bad habit of just overdramatizing things and yell during our quarrels, but she eventually changed with time.