I (21F) want to break up with my boyfriend (22M)

I need advice on what to do because this is my first time breaking up with someone.

Me and my boyfriend have been in a long-distance relationship for 3 years. Lately, I have started to realize that we are not compatible. It feels like the more I know him, the more I realize we’re better as friends. Another thing is that I don’t think I can continue being in a long-distance relationship. So after 2 years of not meeting him because of the travel restrictions, I’ll get to meet him again, and this time I want to tell him in person that I want to break up. However, it seemed like he’s excited when I told him that we’ll get to meet again. So now I feel it’s too cruel if he’s excited, and I end up dumping him.

Another thing is I don’t know where to do it. I’ve seen some posts online saying the best place is in private, especially their house. The problem is I don’t want to do it at his house because he lives with his parent and his brother’s family (it’s very common in my country to live with your parent even if you’re a working adult). I’m sure it’s going to be very awkward if I greet them politely one minute and the next minute see us breaking up. I also don’t want to do it at my house because it’s far from his. So I’m thinking of doing it in a place other than our houses. But I don’t want to be a public spectacle because I know I will cry. I don’t want people to think he’s the one who’s dumping me. Also, some people in my country don’t understand privacy and like to record people without permission. And I don’t want our breakup to be recorded and shared on social media.

Please give me some advice; I appreciate it, thank you.