How Often Did Your Father Hug You When You Were Growing Up?

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1. A few times for sure. Not a massive amount.

2. Never –

3. Idk, a normal amount I guess. As much as my mom did, I think.

4. I don’t remember any hugs 🤷‍♂️

5. Never. Hugs didn’t exist in my family.

6. Never. The one time I tried to hug him, well, you’ve never seen anyone looking so awkward and embarassed.

7. I’m a lady person so I will answer for my brother and son. Brother is 37 and our dad has never hugged him. Last summer when we visited my dad, my son went to hug him goodbye and my dad got all uncomfortable and scoffed that he was “taller than your mother now” and the insinuation was that he should just shake hands now. My son pushed for the hug and has a few times since.

8. Regularly and grandpa too until they both died. I force my uncle in them sometimes it’s funny to watch him squirm a little but it’s never been taboo in my family.

9. I think occasionally when he came home from deployment but not often.

10. Only on eid 🙂

11. Never

12. A lot, every other weekend

13. Never

14. not enough

    no joke: the hugs actually increased after the divorce, so like once a weekend

15. I couldn’t even have him apolgise let alone hug one of his children.

16. All the time and not in a gross way. My dad and I have a fantastic relationship.

17. I’m 19, and have never been hugged by my father.

18. Not often, but then I never huged my mother much either. Was by my own quirks rather than parents not wanting to. Was undiagnosed as an aspie and wasn’t a fan of physical contact and still aren’t outside of a romantic setting.

19. Only awkward handshakes after 4 years of age.

20. Never.

21. Zero. That I remember. He’s been dead since I was 5.

22. Not much at all.

23. Never. It taught me to hug my own kids.

24. Never. I doubt he ever carried me.

25. Very few times, but he loves me even though he has never said that, but I know he does. It’s not his fault really, the lack of intimacy. He was born in the fourties, so his mom and dad was born 1913-1918 it was a different time. I hug my kids all the time but I have other faults I am sure. We are all imperfect and we do our best with what we got.

26. Who?

27. Father , you’re not my step father. So stop hugging me will you.

28. Only on Christmas, birthdays and New Year’s celebrations. And still, it was that kind of robotic thing.

29. Every damn day

30. Don’t recall it ever happening.

    I hug my kids every chance I get though. Eldest is 16 so that is few and far between now.

31. Zero hugs from biological father. Lots from step father who honestly was my father in all respects

32. All the time. He was and is an amazing and kind dad. I hug my 15 yo son often to.

33. Rarely. I hug my son as much as I can.

34. More than I gave him credit for. Jesus I don’t know why, but this question hit me hard right now.

35. Wait ur parents are supposed to hug u? Literally not 1 single time

36. No hugs from my Dad. Not to say I didn’t feel love from him but he wasn’t a hugger.

37. Never. Thanks to God otherwise it would have been awkward.

38. Probably a few times but echoing the common sentiment here in that it didn’t happen enough that I can actually remember it and there was a period as an adult where I had to re-learn how to hug.

39. Mine never did. But I’ve hugged my kids their whole lives.

40. My dad idea of a hug was to get drunk and beat the kids.