Was it fun or stressful? Were your responsibilities mostly formal or informal?

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  1. My experience is probably an outlier, but it was very low-key and not at all stressful, or expensive. My friend had a small wedding (I want to say 15 people?) and wasn’t interested in having a bridal shower or bachelorette. Part of that was because of Covid and part of it was because she does not like being the center of attention. It was wonderful and a great honor! I helped with some logistics/planning and did a couple of things on the day of, but there wasn’t much responsibility.

  2. It was fun, expensive, and memorable. I got to enjoy almost every step of the wedding although if I could go back I’d have done more. I was young and didn’t make very much money so I didn’t get to do everything I wanted to do for the bride (my hs bff) but knowing she enjoyed her Bachelorette party was worth it.

    Also I wrote my speech super last minute and ended up crying before I could finish speaking :’)

  3. Been a bridesmaid a few of times and MOH once. I kind of hate it. Like the day itself is fun but all of the shit you have to attend beforehand is tedious. And since the bride is paying thousands of dollars for the party EVERYTHING will be the biggest deal to them. While your sitting there like….dude come ON it’s cake 🙄🙄

  4. Very low-key. I was honestly the maid of honor because the only other option would be the bride picking between her two sisters. That and we had made a pact that I would do a speech at her wedding and neither of her sisters were down to do a speech.

    It was a lot of fun and there wasn’t much responsibility put on me to do anything special (other than the speech). It was right after COVID and multiple cancellations so we were all just excited to even have the wedding.

  5. Been bridesmaid twice and hated it. And it wasn’t even the over the top staff. We meet up a few times prior for discussions and one time we stayed up till midnight the night before to prepare and slept only 4 hours and woke up at 4am for dress and make up. Only rested at evening the next day.. and the grooms’ relatives treated us literally like slaves or servants of the bride. Yup not the bride nor her family just some nosy old women from the groom side

    If the bride was standing, we got told off for sitting even when the bride didn’t say anything. They told us off if we’re not holding the bride’s train 24/7 and said we didn’t deserve our bridesmaid gift. Please we’re not doing it for the gift we’re doing it to support our friend

    She’s just wearing a long dress, she’s not disabled. Who started this thing of bride wearing dressed with mega long train and needs three women to fuss over her tail the whole day nonsense?

  6. It entirely depends on the friend/friend group. One was a nightmare and one was a breeze. I will say that my favorite was being a Groomswoman though – I discovered I look great in a tie!

  7. I should have said no. The bride and I were very different. I just couldn’t understand why she cared about what she cared about. It was also a very stressful time in my life and I could have used the time to get my own stuff in check.

    I’ve been a bridesmaid as well, and had a much more wonderful time with that.

  10. Expensive. Ugly dress. Numerous “duties”. Only say yes if you are really close to the bride.

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