So I really fucked up recently. I met this guy (M17) and started dating him because I liked him but at the same time I still had feelings for another person (also M17). We were dating for about 6 weeks before I finally came to my senses and realised that what I was doing was really horrible and that I shouldn’t be dating someone if I still have feelings for another person at the same time. I have been beating myself up over this for the past few days and I can’t forgive myself for what I’ve done. This is literally the first time I’ve ever done something like this and whilst I’ve been assured that people make stupid mistakes because no one is perfect, I am still really distressed about this situation. I didn’t want to hurt my ex, that is literally the last thing on my mind, but I also understand that there is nothing that I can do now (unless anyone has any good ideas) to help this situation. My ex has expressed that he would like to have a conversation with me today so I’m going to do that and I’m bricking it if I’m honest. I don’t know what to do and my mental health has been all over the place over the last few days. If anyone could give some help that would be much appreciated. XX
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The fact that you’re feeling this level of guilt means you’re a good person. It’s not like you married the guy and had kids with him while the whole time thinking of someone else, so go easy on yourself. 6 weeks is nothing.
I’m not sure if the conversation with your ex would be a good idea because he might want to make you feel worse. Try calling him on the phone so you can limit how much he talks to you.