sex advice
I really need advice. I’ve been talking to this guy for a bit and he has made it very clear he wants to hookup with me at some point, which is completely fine because I really trust him and we both agreed we would be fine losing our virginity’s to each other. One problem I’m having is that I think I might be scared of penetration. I’ve looked into vaginismus but I’m able to put in a tampon, my finger, and a vibrator around the same size as my finger maybe a bit wider, but anything bigger than that I struggle to get in and I get a burning sensation. What do I do?
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It might be another factor that is causing it, go to a doctor and see if it’s any health problem
Iys just going to take time. Make sure your ready you are turned on. Use some lube and have hin go slow an easy
By lube for sure, my first gf & I had to buy some. My dick thickness is around 3 of my fingers wide while soft. I actually put my dick in while it was still semi soft then it gradually got hard. She said it was very painful afterwards but she wanted to keep doing it
Try water based lube
It really sounds you need to ease into this, before having full-on sex.
It’s great that you’re able to put a finger and a tampon inside you. Are you able to give yourself an orgasm? You should definitely do this a few times by yourself (that vibrator will definitely come in handy!) before bringing another person into the mix; this way, you’ll have some idea of “where you are going” beforehand, and won’t be surprised when it happens during intercourse.
And I DEFINITELY concur with the person below who suggested going to the doctor. It’s best to deal with any issues now, and enjoy pain-free sex, rather than sit on the sidelines all nervous and filled with doubt. Just think about how relieved you will feel one hour *after* the doctor appointment — that should be some pretty good motivation right there!
Of course, you need to concern yourself with things like possibly getting pregnant, once you get to the stage of hooking up. That’s definitely something you (plural) need to think about.