I’m 23m and I just feel like I’m always behind the 8 ball, I’ve never been close to a relationship or kissed anyone and that just makes me feel like embarrassed about it and doesn’t help me get out of my social anxiety/awkwardness. I feel like stuck because in 90% of situations I feel out of place even at work or sometimes home. I never really know what to say to anyone I find attractive because I get nervous just a simple complement will come off as weird or creepy. I always feel like I have nothing to be confident about because I’ve never done anything or have any experience and that no one is looking for that. I’m on like every dating app even tried match and get nowhere, idk if it makes a difference but im a redhead 6′ 280 I’m not huge but I’m not small either but I’m way more self conscious about being a virgin than a little overweight just last time I was here someone said I didn’t mention a few things
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Practice will make it easier. Don’t lead with a compliment. Start by sharing your opinion on something that’s situation appropriate and see if she responds. Don’t worry about how she or looks you’re just in practice mode which means you don’t really care about the outcome. You’re doing research.
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Exposure therapy. Figure out a way where it’s natural for people to have conversations, be it you join a pub quiz group or improv theater. Don’t make it about getting with someone, but don’t be passive once you feel like it’s a good time to take action and see if they want to escalate it from there as well. That last bit took me a while to figure out as well, but you’ll get there.
Coming from a woman talk to them with confidence like how you’d talk to a man. Guys who don’t seem scared of women are automatically more attractive. Just stop thinking of it as “talking to women” and think of it as “talking to people”. Cause. You know.
Also I’d be more worried about your weight than your virginity.
reminds me of a long statement that changed my view on talking to women