How my husband and I spiced up our bedroom + your suggestions for making it better!

Hello! Looking for some suggestions on how to spice up something my husband and I have been doing for a little while now. I’m sharing what we do in hopes that it may help others in the same situation, but also so we can possibly get some more ideas to make what we’re doing better.

Some background: After we had our first kid, our sex life went from two to three times a week to once a week or once every two weeks, usually just on the weekends because during the week I’m pretty tired at the end of the day with everything. I figured he was still taking care of himself while we were having less sex, which didn’t really bother me, but it also meant he wasn’t looking for sex from he as often, which was good during the week but not great during the weekend because I’ve never been someone who likes taking care of myself.

We talked about this and I explained how I wanted us to be having more sex, that it was harder for me to initiate, that I was okay with him taking care of himself every so often, but that I didn’t want that to replace us having sex. So, we tried a bunch of things and are now doing this, which isn’t for everyone but is fun for us.

Every Sunday night before bed, he rolls a die and the number that comes up is the number of times he’s able to cum during the week. Both the high numbers and the low numbers end up being fun. Before he goes to bed any night, if he wants to cum the next day he puts out one of his coins on the vanity so I’ll see it the next morning, and I get to decide if he can cum by himself at some point that day (and if so he tells me when, sometimes sending me proof) or if he needs to wait until after our kid is asleep. Then, if I choose that, I get to decide if he puts on a show for me and cums in front of me, or if I’m in the mood to have sex and if so then he can cum after taking care of me. I can also decide he has to cum that day by putting out one of his chips on the vanity. One week he rolled a 4 and I stacked up all 4 of them on the vanity Monday morning… that was fun.

During the day, if he’s working from home, he’s started wearing one of those novelty plastic cock cages to remind him that I’m in charge and it’s led to us having far more sex. He seems to like it because he’s constantly thinking about things, even if he isn’t able to touch himself. We’ve also started to incorporate chores around the house into him earning more orgasms. So, I’m usually the one to do the wash and fold the clothes, but if he does it and puts them all away, he can earn another chip.

It’s been a fun way to spice things up again. Does anyone do anything like this with their partners? Do you have any suggestions for how we can change things up every so often to keep it interesting? Thanks for reading! 🙂