I always avoid talking to people because I’m very self conscious. I always leave the conversation over thinking the way my voice may have sounded, my facial expressions, the sound of my laugh, or maybe the smell of my breath, questioning how I may have been perceived or of I offended the other person even if they walked off without seemingly have been offended. Then these thoughts replay in my head and make feel like I want to throw up. Like I have a pit in my stomach that’s almost identical to the feeling of ur stomach dropping on a roller coaster. It’s draining and I hate it.
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Man, that sounds tough. Have you found ways to get around this issue? Because I’m sure the other person probably enjoyed talking to you and didn’t notice any of the things that you are concerned about.
As long as you keep worrying about other people, people will notice and feel that vibe coming from you. People notice the way you carry yourself and the vibes you give off. When you are nervous/anxious/overthinking/worrying, your verbal and nonverbal actions tend to show it. If you keep acting this way, people will stop associating with you because it’s a negative vibe. You are essentially conveying that you are unworthy to hold a conversation with them or be around them and that they need to be constantly reassuring you. That’s not what you want to convey, and it’s nobody else’s job but your own to validate and reassure yourself. People gravitate towards self confidence, not anxiety.
Now is the time to be genuinely busy in your life pursuing your goals and hobbies, while interacting with people on the side. People are hardwired to be repulsed by neediness and desperation and instead gravitate towards those who are self confident and well rounded in life. Find something in life you enjoy doing and keep doing that overtime. You will build self confidence and self esteem. Chase excellence, not people.