Without literally saying it, how do you say to your spouse “let’s have sex”? How do they “say” it to you?

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  1. Hypothetically speaking, but I’d probably cook dinner and do the dishes afterwards.

  2. I put my hand between her legs.

    She uses a complex system of symbols and odd behaviors to steer me in direction of those symbols so I can decipher that she is, in fact, horny. Failing that, she will sometimes mutter/whisper “I’m horny” under her breath when I’m not looking at her so that I have to ask her what she said, at which point she will let me know in an exhausted tone that she wants sex and I should have done something about it a long time ago.

  3. I ask her if she wants to take the train to pound town.

    >How do they “say” it to you?

    Lol

  4. It might start in the morning with some flowers, and then a lunch date at her favorite restaurant and then followed up with grabbing her in the kitchen, necking with her and some serious grinding, and then just go to bed early.

  5. If we express it with words its always direct.
    But the meaning is never “lets have sex” its “i want you now”.
    But declining is easy, we dont complain when the other do it, so its never weird.

  6. My guy never initiates, feels like I’m dating a timid girl.
    As a woman when I initiate it use to be that I’d make moan sounds if we’re eating. Like I’d take a bite out of my tofu salad and I’d moan about how delicious it is.
    Then it went to telling him that I wanna be chocked.
    Then just went to “I wanna fuck”.
    And that happened because he’d turn me down at times or make excuses as to why we can’t or won’t have sex..
    -It’s too late, – I’m too tired, – I have a headache, or my stomach hurts.
    I’d feel humiliated because I’d throw myself at him and he knew he didn’t want to and he wouldn’t stop me until his soft cock was in my face. I gave up finding adventurous ways and just told him straight up, safe myself the humiliation.

  9. Would usually just start putting my arms all around them and squeeze them close. Usually they would carry it on from there or this one chick I was seeing didn’t realise what i meant so i just looked her in the eyes while i rubbed her tits and stomach

  11. She’ll either sit in my lap and start wiggling her butt, or she’ll push her butt into me if we’re in bed. Afterwards, she’ll act like the whole thing was my idea

  12. Me: When I know she isn’t doing anything at the moment (like just laying on the bed being on her phone) I just tell her what I want. Like: “Come here” – “Turn around” – “Faster” – short commands. If she doesn’t move fast enough I just grab her and move her the way I want her to. Then I just go for whatever is on my mind unless she tells me she wants something else in particular.

    Her: She usually dolls up when I’m not looking then just kind of appears next to me looking like a slut and smelling like a goddess. Things usually just escalate from there.

  13. I just start touching her. Rub her back or hair. My wife rarely, if ever, initiates, so it’s always on me to get the ball rolling.

    Though, I don’t leave her alone long enough for her to get the desire to initiate for the most part.

  16. Often something in the vein of “do you want to go upstairs?”

    The upstairs notion will come from them too, but there’s also “want to play a game?”, as that’s the term we generally use for sex with role playing involved.

  17. If I’m really horny, I just start groping her and pop her titty in my mouth.

    If I could casually go for sex I just ask “Want some dick?”

  18. We’ve been married for twenty years; if we want sex it’s just a matter of time before the clothes come off and the lube and toys come out.

  20. We don’t say anything. Our actions do the talking. A head wave from me. Her coming up to me and just grabbing my junk. Stuff like that.

  21. Remember the “u wan sum fuk” meme?

    Yeah that’s a thing in our house.

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