Men who aren’t interested in getting married, what’s your reasons?

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1. Been there, done that. The transaction just isn’t in the man’s favour.

2. Google “unconscionable contract”

3. What’s mine is mine and what’s yours is also mine lol

4. I have absolutely ZERO trust or faith in the government. Why would I want them involved in any relationship of mine?

5. Too risky. I wouldn’t gamble everything I currently own and half of my future income on the chance a woman will stick around especially when over 80% of divorces are iniated by women.

6. What’s gained from it?

7. My girl was talking with her mother earlier. They were joking about how big the closet was. Her mom said it was plenty Bohr enough for me to sleep I. If I’ve been bad. My GF said it would be good for a baby if we had one and the mom started having a problem with it.

   Shit like that is the problem. Women think less of a man than they do of a baby.

8. I’m getting married once, which means it has to be to right. I believe in marriage so much that it’s hard…especially since I was engaged and she left Becuase her friends were sleeping about and she was jealous of them…

9. There’s no benefit to me in getting married.

10. I see no point, both of my parents have been married 3 times. My last relationship was 8 years and when we ended it because we weren’t married it took no time to sort stuff out. Simple.

11. Marriage is the #1 cause of divorce.

12. Dont fancy losing all of my sh*t when she cheats on me and makes me also give her spousal support

13. Because i believe love should just be a growing process through bonding and chemistry as opposed to boxed in stages and labels. Natural shit shouldn’t be treated with artificial organizations, plus i hate traditions, they can often times hold people back from doing new things. If the love is there, both parties will stick around. If we make it to old age, then I’ll say “i do” on my deathbed.

    That’s just my reason, i speak for no one else.

14. The odds of finding a partner that matches you and will work longterm is super low , i dont feel like it has a good return if i invest my energy on that , i could get married tho i will just never actively look for it

15. The legal implications of getting a divorce aren’t worth the hassle

16. i cant afford to potentially lose half of everything just bc a relationship didnt work out

17. because i realize that people change in ways they cant foresee and in that sense, the person you marry will not be the person you eventually end up with. marriage is a permanent promise based on a temporary emotion. once you get married, youve just stepped into a giant legal trap and the woman controls how and when that trap goes off

18. It’s not like i’m opposed to getting married but i have to find a person who is the right fit, i know that it’s improbable to find the perfect one but most of the women (around my age that i dated)’s whole personality is “marriage and kids as soon as possible” and i’m just a prop for their plans, i have seen it too in my past long term relationships. Why would i want that when i can fuck around with younger ladies?

    When i find a woman who don’t want kids, who matches my sex drive, who has a genuine interest in my person and not only in what i provide, then i will change my mind.

19. We’ve been together 25 years plus pocket change. I don’t know anyone whose marriage has lasted that long except my parents and in laws and they fucking hate each others guts.

    My dad actually said on the way to my mom’s funeral that he should have left her 40 years ago but he was too lazy.

    We’re happy the way we are. If it ain’t broke, don’t fix it

20. No need for a piece of paper to live till old days with a loved one.

21. I cant believe this question is still genuinely asked. And that its not flagged for FAQ

22. Family court system and divorcerape

23. nuclear family, kids and wife, picket fence, house and dog, none of these things matter to me,

    I feel as a lot institutions try to compell me to do it because y’know “that’s tradition”, “that’s what we do as species” and all that junk… But no no, I’m already struggling to raise myself on my own (as in: spiritual elevation), I don’t see any real incentive in being responsible for another individual or any higher good that’s marketed.

    Call it being coward, but the uncertainty of success in this commitment, and the difficulty to find a really like-minded partner is enough to deter me.

24. Can you tell me why a man should get married?

    What is the actual benefit besides a ‘tax break’ that will essentially be null if we ever get divorced? (cost for the divorce, alimony payments, etc)

25. Why should I sign a contract to keep the relationship I have been having without the need of said contract? (IDK if my english is good enough to phrase this). Its an innecesary requirement from a logic point of view.

    From a legal reason, my patrimony becomes vulnerable in case of divorce, I might even have to pay alimony if my wife decides to stop working and cant have the life standard she is used to because she cant aford it on her own.

    Marriage is like shooting yourself on the foot before running a race and still pretend to win.

26. Its a giant fucking scam. I buy a house, merry someone and if we split i might lose the house. Often men lose even more plus women get bunch of money for some reason even if they dont have kids. Scariest of it all is the justice system thet is extremly against men.

27. The women I think are worth marrying would never want to marry me.

28. I don’t see the point.

    1. It’s expensive
    2. I’m not religious
    3. Over 50% of them fail
    4. If it does fail its pain in the ass
    5. Weddings all together are pain in the ass
    6. You aren’t required to be married to spend the rest of your life with the same person so you don’t even get anything out of it

29. The question is why. Not why not. Why i would be interested? (It’s not a rethoric question. I am open to mind change)

30. Because I’ve been told by countless people that marriage isn’t fun my whole life. Im 33 now and yeah I just know people wasting good money on over the top stupid weddings..I don’t really want kids either and I really enjoy my independence. Marriage is just a scam.

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32. I don’t want to have to do paperwork to break up with my girlfriend.

33. Mainly because I don’t get it.

    I’m not religious, so I don’t have a church/synagogue/mosque/whatever telling me I have to do it to make god happy.

    The legal benefits don’t really seem worth it when you consider how divorce ends up, and after seeing my parents’ split first hand, don’t need that in my life.

    Just seems like a lot of hassle when I could just live with someone.

34. Having been married once before for 18+ years, I’ve decided I am “never” getting married again. Marriage for me has three purposes:

    1. Religious convictions that dictate you need to be married to have sex. Fuck that.
    2. You should be married to build a family / have children. I have grown kids, and I don’t want anymore. Fuck that.
    3. Married couples (in the USA) have a lower combined income tax bracket, have implied power of attorney as next-of-kin in healthcare situations, aren’t subject to inheritance tax if one of you dies before the other, and up until recently could share things like car insurance for lower rates – which still varies by state.

    My current GF and I are both in mid-late 40’s, aren’t having any kids, aren’t religious. If she’s as completely awesome as I think she is, in ten years, I might consider it. But for now, it’s “never again, bitches!”.

    LOL

35. Wife and are not legally married.

    Reasonings:

    1 income taxes we both have kids we claim so doing them separately we get more back. yes greedy no I don’t fucking care.

    2 I do not need a piece of paper that tells me if I love someone or not

    3 I’ve done the marriage thing before I won’t do it again, divorce is so much more expensive and on the off chance this relationship fails I’m not gonna be taken to the cleaners again and left with nothing