How is the best way to tell a girl you’re really small before having sex?

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  3. Don’t tell her anything. Does a team inform an opposing team their small before a game? Hell no. The stats are there if they want to read them. Get in there and play, bud. Give her your best.

  4. Hold up a vienna sausage and say:

    “This is me”

    Then throw it down a hallway and say:

    “The hallway is you”

    ​

    Trust me nobody gets offended xD

  5. Her sweet spot isn’t even inside so do it right and it’ll be a case of who cares how small. It’s all about positioning rather than length.

  10. You could be able to drum your chest with it, and it wouldn’t matter if you can’t get her off, and there are plenty of ways to get her off with your pants on. The only thing that matters is if you get the job done with what you have or not.

  11. I don’t think a warning is necessary unless you’re smaller than 3 inches or so. Make the conversation about how to have fun in bed – what she likes, what you like – then add in, “btw I’m below average in the size department, I don’t want to catch you off guard, if you have any questions let me know, but I’m excited to try the things you mentioned, it sounds like we like similar things with XYZ”

  12. Dont say anything. “Hey just to let you know I have a small dick” reeks of insecurity. Just fuck her and try to make up for it in other departments like manual and oral stimulation.

  13. Don’t. The same percentage of women are small and don’t like to deal with anything larger than a roll of quarters.

  17. Tell her you have a gorilla dick and when she sees it say “Yeah gorillas actually have small penises”

  21. If you lied about your size or she asked directly than tell her the truth. But also that there is way more to sex than a penis. Humans and especially men are always so concerned with the penis that it damages sex lives everywhere.

    If you have penis anxiety and depending on what your relationship is like a safe time to tell your partner is 5-20 minutes before you take your pants off and after a little foreplay and cunnilingus. But make those 5-20 minutes about your partners desires and ask if you can satisfy them with either your hands, mouth, or toys.

    EDIT: Another Comment used a similar phrase to, “I don’t wanna catch you off guard and I wanted to let you know that I have a smaller penis.”

    FIRST THING KNOW WHAT A VAGINA IS. Google the anatomy and what everything is and how it works.

    ANYONE WITH VAGINA PLEASE CORRECT ME OR ADD YOUR THOUGHTS.

    I’m on the bigger end at 9” and I’m familiar with sex work but their are people giving better orgasms then me with 3”, with 6”, 10”, and with dildos, vibrators, and fingers. No matter how big you are, giving good head and fingering well or using toys together will be better than a dick +90% of the time. For some people it might be better 100% of the time or maybe 70% of the time.

    But seriously take your time with foreplay and kissing communicate well and ask your partner what feels good when your down there. Everyone absolutely everyone is slightly different. Eating out pussy is different with every partner and no one technique works for everyone. There are some generally good strategies but nothing is foolproof all the time. Experiment with pressure and speed and when you do something that works for your partner stick with it.

    Ask them what your hands should be doing while you kiss their neck, “Is this working for you? Or should I try something else?” Then do that whatever it is they say they want. While making your way down your partners body ask how they wants to be eaten. If it looks or sounds like what your doing is working check up on her just once every few minutes or longer depending on how well you can read your partners signs. It might be after 2 minutes or possibly after 10 minutes.

    Toys are always good if your partner is comfortable with them. And a variety of toys is best. 2-3 quality toys used with trust and affection will go farther than any dick.

    Also dildos aren’t the only kind of toy. Think vibrators first when you think about pussy. But know that vibrators and dildos aren’t everything there is but it’s the safest starting place. Three vibes that have a low learning curve are rings, compact bullets, and wands. You can enter your partner with your fingers while kissing their neck and the ring can press against her clit. Though sometimes especially early during foreplay or sometimes right after an orgasm a vibrator might be to intense.

    A bullet type or anything small and compact if whoever is involved doesn’t want something big and clunky. You don’t have to be the one holding the toy either. Not that you can’t be but just that your partner has hands and letting them use the toy is often an easier and safer option.

    And the classic wand type is a safe bet if everyone involved is okay with the bigger toy. You can enter your partner easily while they use this on their clit. Also you don’t have to use the toy during the entire time or the highest setting from the get go. It’s honestly the wrong way to use them in almost every situation I can conceive.

    Learn some phrases you can remember and say in a way that makes you feel sexy saying them and that your partner is comfortable with. I often check in with. “Is this okay for you baby?” “Is it okay if we change positions, I want to see your face better?” Is it okay followed by a question is letting your partner know you want their input. Is it okay followed by a request let’s your partner your into it. Both make your partner more open to communication.

    As long as you don’t stop whatever is working to early and kill a potential orgasm you two are working on you’ll be okay. (Unless they’re into edging and ruined orgasms)

    Remember to use lube. Clean up toys with the correct cleaning products that the toys instructions ask to be used. Having a towel ready for every partner involved is a sweet thing to remember and you’re supposed to hand your partner the towel if you’re the first person to stand up when everything’s over. Post sex cuddles are usually appreciated unless you think you should get your partner water first.

  22. Dont bother. But if you really feel its imoortsnt just mention it in lassi g while discussing turn ons etc

    Judt to add – I know this js ask men buut – I once had a guy tell me he was 2 inches when hard

    I really liked him but my ex was big so i decided to google what id be dealing with. Turns ojt thats a micro penis.
    So i watched some micro penis porn to see how best to pleasure him. Which sounds dumb now but i wasnt sure if itd be more like a clit or a penis in the stimulation department

    Anywho. As said i really liked him so i was feeling prepped. When it came to being intimate he did not have a micro penjs. I had done it all for nothing. It was at least 4 inches and while not being a magnum dong it was certainly fun and nothing to worry about.

    Main point im making here is – its not usually the issue guys think it js and if it is – shes not mature enough to be having sex anyway.

  23. Don’t tell her. It’s such a turn off. Not having a small dick, most of us don’t really give a shit. You warning her shows a lack of confidence which is a turn off and almost puts us in an uncomfortable position because when I say most of us don’t give a shit, it’s absolutely true. Knowing you’re so insecure about it puts us in a position where it will seem false when we pretend we haven’t noticed. Unless it is absolutely micro or she’s an utter bitch I really wouldn’t worry about it. It’s likely what you think it a small dick is actually perfectly fine for the job. Please don’t worry, don’t tell her and just relax and enjoy. Good luck x

  24. I dated a guy who didn’t say anything until we were hot and heavy making out. He told me he was self-conscious about his size. Any woman who makes fun of you or your size deserves a kick in the teeth. Is it legal? No. Justified? Perhaps. I could still feel him inside me, and that man gave me orgasms like I have never experienced when he went down on me. Most women don’t orgasm from intercourse anyway. Learn basic methods for stimulating the g-spot, learn basics of pussy eating and don’t be afraid to ask her if she likes what you’re doing, if it feels good, etc. There are many methods for making a woman happy, my friend.

  26. 37F

    Oh man, the responses on this one. “Go down on her more”, “make up for it in other departments”

    Woman want this regardless of penis size. The G spot sensitivity is different for many woman and most do not orgasm through penetration. On the female oriented sex toy market, clitoral stimulators outsell vaginal penetration toys by a very wide mile. I just don’t think you can wrong spending time extra time on the clit.

    There is just a very small but vocal group that make it seem like penis size is a dealbreaker. But I think the reality is very different. With a girl talk I have heard over the years, the selfish sex partner is the most criticized, not penis size.

    But to answer your question, no warning needed. Let her decide. If its a problem, catch and release.

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