Hey everyone. Girl that I (M, 24) just met tells me she (F, 25) is very interested in me. After she asked if I was single and I confirmed I am, she told me she is “poly and partnered, but its all non-exclusive.” From my understanding (and bits and pieces from talking to her), the relationships with her girlfriend and boyfriend are strictly sexual, not romantic. As someone who doesn’t pursue relationships much and is unfamiliar with anything non-monogamous, am I making a mistake by pursuing her? We really clicked on our first two dates, so I’m very conflicted on what to do.
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If she is poly and not just non-monogamous their relationships are NOT purely sexual but romantic ones.
If you want a monogamous relationship look elsewhere.
I can’t imagine why you would even consider doing this shit to yourself. Snap out of it and work on bolstering your self esteem and respect.
If you’re open to sharing her, go for it. If you think it’s just going to make you a jealous mess, I’d say keep it friendly. It makes some people happy and it can sometimes make a person who’s just in it to keep their partner happy miserable. Just don’t jump into things thinking you’ll make her monogamous or she’s going to stop pursuing new people.
No no no. Poly relationships aren’t sustainable in my opinion and just causes so many issues. Do not sell yourself short man if you do this you are just signing up for pain and confusion.