Men in online dating apps, is it rude when a woman asks about your height if you haven’t put that in your profile?

23 comments

1. No. You should put your height in your profile just to make things easier and avoid that question

2. Well, it’s only a problem for those who are not very high, so o guess you’re looking for a higher guys, which should be ok with the question.
   I think any person has a right to ask any question, so, feel free😅

3. I think that things like height and weight should be there, as we all have different preferences and it’s not okay to lead someone on

4. I will always answer the question, but tbh I find it a bit cringe.

5. Asking it is not that rude. But judging someone mostly by it really is. Because as it is mostly uncontrollable feature, it basically devalue person into one shallow number, its really dehumanising.

6. I think it’s an OK question if it’s important to you. In return, I will ask you about your current weight or BMI, because that is important to me.

7. It all depends on the context, their profile and how you ask. For me PERSONALLY, I’m 6ft tall so I usually use it as a buffer and a conversation starter

8. Tell me your weight then

9. I say it casually ” i like wearin heels even though it doesn make me that taller cz am petite ” usually immediately he says how tall r u and tell u how tall he is

10. You can however when a lady at 5′ 4″ says a man at 5′ 10′ is too short for her in her profile its swipe left.

    I sometimes wonder when the height and i like to wear heels a lot reference in a profile, is not really someone looking to date they just want a social life that just involves dressing up and partying

11. Asking for height is rude, there’s a lot of stigma around it.

12. I have a feeling asking that question will be met with lies. You can kind of tell a person’s height on how they take pictures, to a certain extent. Or better yet, meeting in person first should be priority over online as you won’t have to ask about a person’s height.

13. Yes because for me the second you ask i automatically assume your one of those girls who will judge menon hight. Because if it didn’t matter why are you asking.

    It would be the same as me asking what is your weight. Unfortunately or fortunately toxic women have turned hight into something your shouldn’t ask. I didn’t care about my height until women on dating apps made it a thing. It a woman ask of no where i become sus about why she is asking and it triggers a red flag. If it happen naturally in convo idc. Its the randomly asking and the experience of how a woman changes because of it.

14. No I don’t think it’s rude. Why waste everyone’s time

15. I’d rather have you put in your bio “no one under *height*”

    Just so I know not to even bother swiping right

16. Nah it’s fine. Height is important. Most men lie on their profile – adding an inch is super common. Probably gotta meet in real life to know the true height.

17. I don’t understand this issue with height. Why is it that height is such an in demand aspect of man? I mean, it’s like a box you check on a list of features you like about a guy. What if all the other feature boxes are checked, but not the height box? Say he’s not 6 feet tall, which many men are not. You just drop a guy for not being 6 feet tall?
    It seems silly so me. Don’t you want to be with someone because of who they are, not what they are?

18. Yeah you can ofc, but also weight is important to me!

19. You’ll be the type they go for. Guys don’t want non judgmental girls. They think they’re desperate if they actually have an understanding about life and what is important and in someone’s control. It’s like when guys want the small waist and big butt, but could care less what is on the inside

20. I always put my height on my profile, but if for swine reason I don’t have it, it won’t be rude to ask about my height, but that will be a clear indication that you’re definitely not my type. I would use this technique to reject people. Also if I’m being asked about my height, I also want to know your weight

21. When they don’t write, they are shorter than 180cm.

22. I’m 5’10 (178cm), which is very tall for a woman. Like, taller than the average WNBA player.

    It’s not that I wouldn’t date someone 5’7 or 5’8 (I have), it’s just that it risks awkwardness/wasted time for both of us if we show up to a date and you’re half a foot shorter than me, talking into my chest the whole walk.

    Usually I avoid the faux pas of asking by simply saying ‘Just so you know I’m very tall! 5’10 to be exact’- and then they kind of have to tell you how tall they are in response.

23. I know a lot of guys including myself who are turned off by it as soon as it’s asked, mainly because if it’s that important to you then it’s not really the right dating priorities for somebody to have if you are looking for something more than a hook up. I don’t mind a girl having a height preference, but if it’s the number 1 thing she is looking for and it is make or break… then I just view that as dumb. I wouldn’t reject a girl based on the size of her boobs and that alone, same thing, and I don’t see many guys going around asking for a girls bra size.