Hey reddit 🙁 this isn’t really me looking for advice or anything, but the man that I love ended our relationship just now. The break up itself started rough but then things got smoothed out. We hugged, we kissed, we told each other we love each other, and I asked him one last time If he really wanted this to happen and after he took a moment to think, he said yes, which solidified the break up for me. I’m extremely down right now and I honestly need a pick me up. I got myself a can of beer and I’m just gonna down it. I don’t want to think, I don’t want to feel pain. I don’t want to feel anything. The thought of him moving on and finding someone else is killing me. If anyone has any good vibes to spare, I’d really appreciate it.
TL;DR: Boyfriend and I just broke up and I’m devastated.
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I just went through a breakup myself. I wanted to break up, so it’s a little different, but I may still have some helpful ideas.
1. If you had dreams of marriage, family, or just being a happy couple, you can still have them. You just need to re-cast with a better partner for you.
2. Sometimes a break up is a kindness. I could feel that I lost respect for my partner over some differences, and I am sure I would have started treating him as such if we stayed together long enough.
3. Enjoy being single, doing what you want. You are young. Find out how you feel and how you interact with the world now that you’re single again. You may find that you were less yourself because you were limited by him.
4. Give up the idea that he can’t move on. When you’re ready, of course. Close your eyes and imagine you are cutting the ropes that tie you to him. You are free and he is free. Once you get past it, hopefully you can just hope that he is happy and he will feel the same.
Hugs.