I am asking this question because I (18F) have only been with one person and am not a porn consumer thus, don’t really have a whole lot to go off of. I have found that the sex in my relationship has been unfulfilling and am finally doing my research and asking questions (a few times by posts on here). I would like to know, what would a typical sexual encounter look like for you and your partner/bf/gf/spouse? I would like to know what foreplay looks like for you guys, what happens before and after the sex, what do you guys say to each other during if anything? Things like that. I know of course I varies each time but I would just like to hear what your typical encounter would look like. It may seem like an odd question but I think hearing what others have to say in relationships where the sex is good would help me in shaping what maybe I’d like from my own future relationship and sex life. Thank you!
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Well as you said, each time is different. But I would say we often follow a general formula. For context, my wife and I have been together and sexually active for 6.5 years. Married for 5.
My wife is big into lingerie so sometimes (I’d say 50/50) she starts by going into her closet and puts on something fun. Once she has that on, or is naked, the foreplay begins. This mainly consists of her giving me blow jobs. She absolutely loves sucking my dick and it gets her incredibly aroused. She tries to change it up. Sometimes I’m laying down on the bed. Other times I’m standing and she’s on her knees. Her favorite blowjob style though is where she hangs her head off the bed upside down and sucks me that way. (She’s a little bit submissive if you couldn’t tell lol)
She’ll play with my penis for a good 15-20 minutes. Because of my size, we require tons of foreplay to make sure she’s well-opened up down there. When she’s ready she rubs on a good amount of lube.
Once we start PIV, position depends on the mood, but our main positions are Doggystyle, pronebone, and her ankles over my shoulders. While we have sex we will sometimes talk about stuff. Sometimes we talk about our sex, other times we talk about other stuff. It’s always light-hearted and she’s always giggling at something. Sometimes one of us will say something funny or dumb and we will laugh. Like when Storm Area 51 was a thing, as I was fucking her Doggystyle she was like “Clap these alien cheeks” and we both laughed and joked about that most of the time.
Sex lasts a total of 45 minutes to an hour most nights and it usually ends with me cumming inside her, though often she wants me to cum on her boobs or her butt.
I usually have a towel ready for her and I’ll bring her up a Gatorade from downstairs. Usually we sit watching TV naked until one of us falls asleep.
I like our sex a lot.
Also not a porn consumer and only with my second sexual partner, but I will gladly give you a run down. My partner and I haven’t been sexually active together for long and we are also long distance, so we are still exploring and figuring stuff out as we go. My partner is also, ehm, big, so a lot of our foreplay is focused on me getting ready to be able to handle him penetrating me, so not necessarily your typical foreplay.
In general, when we want to do PIV sex our foreplay includes us just kissing and making out, touching each other. He then rubs my clit with his fingers and after I am aroused he enters one and after a while a second finger into my vagina. He also performs oral on me while doing so. After a while he will then “stretch” me with his two fingers for a couple of minutes as a final step towards penetration. Then he lubes up (silicone based) and I get on top, to be able to control the initial penetration. I also use a vibrator on myself while doing that. Once he is in and I have adjusted we either continue in cowgirl or switch positions. We are still trying new ones out to see what we both like. PIV doesn’t last long for us because I get sore very fast because of his size, despite lube and foreplay. During this process we constantly check up on each other. We haven’t really tried much dirty talk yet.
But not all our sex is PIV sex, sometimes he just goes down on me and we leave it at that, oral sex is also a kind of sex after all and doesn’t have to be just foreplay. Sometimes, when I am not in the mood to run through the whole process of getting ready for PIV but I still want to please him we do something that I call “thigh fucking”. I lay either on my back or belly (belly personally feels better) and he lubes up and penetrates between my thighs, rubbing his penis along my vulva while doing so. Especially when I am on my belly the clit gets rubbed nicely too, so I too am having my fun with that.
As I said the both of us are still exploring and pretty vanilla, but OP just experiment and see what works for you (and your partner). If you are in a straight relationship maybe take the focus off of PIV. Try other things and most importantly, have fun! All the best to you!
Been with my GF for a few years, we have lived together for 2. It usually starts with making out or if it is more late-night sleepy sex then maybe with rubbing up on the other in bed or getting handsy with boobs or crotch (her grabbing me or vice-versa). It can progress quickly or slowly, but eventually someone starts giving oral, or maybe it’s a playful competition of who is going to do it first. I would say 90-95% of the time I give her oral until she cums. She will lick and suck my dick and play with my balls to tantalize, tease, and pleasure me maybe 60-70% of the time, but this is fine by me and largely limited by me because we both enjoy PIV and so as long as I’m good and hard then I’m fine just moving on to that. We’re still condoms every time, both for the pregnancy protection and for less mess to clean up, and also since I’m quite sensitive it helps me last a bit longer. We choose a couple of positions, trying to vary it up but also sensitive to what is more comfortable and/or stimulating for each person. Occasionally trying a new position to see if there is something new we want to add into the rotation. Since she’s already usually had an orgasm from oral we go until I bust and can’t manage to keep going any longer. By then we’re both probably out of breath and collapse onto each other. Get up and dispose of the condom, wash her yummy juices out of my beard and cuddle and enjoy the afterglow. Or get up and start getting dressed if it was more of a quickie session before needing to go back to work or go out to meet people or whatever 
Occasionally she’ll interrupt this flow and decide she wants to blow me to completion, which is absolutely heavenly. Both because she’s not that dominant usually so it’s fun to let her take charge when she wants to and because she does an amazing job at it. But we both know that if that happens then PIV is not on the table for at least a couple of hours.
I have a fwb so it might be different then what regular couples do because you’re more intimate when your in an actual relationship.
For us, when I come over and we’re still standing up, he’s hand would always start off by touching me especially squeezing and feeling my boobs. As he does that my hand would start to move down into his crotch and starts rubbing him outside his pants. I like looking up at him sometimes bc he tries not to make eye contact with me until my hands slips into his pants and grab his dick. My eyes goes back onto his cock as I jack him off in his shorts and pulls it out. I love feeling his dick getting hard in my hands lol then he tells me to start sucking and that’s when I get down on my knees or he goes lay on the bed and I suck him. That normally goes for like 10 mins until he tells me or pull me from my hair to tell me to get on top or he’ll stands up, pulls my shorts down and fuck me from behind.
We fuck in like a couple of position for a while, doggy style, on my side, prone bone, missionary or cowgirl. It always him trying to not to come first. I cum a lot but always want more. When he tries to not cum that when we normally have out conversations. He always ask me what I did today (which is really hard for me to answer with his dick in me and he knows it) I would ask him back. We would have small discussions. If it’s not talking talking, it’s him moaning telling me what a good girl I am. Saying omg, youre so wet you know typical stuff. I like calling him daddy so yea a couple of that and telling him how good his dick feels etc etc.
My fwb obviously doesn’t cum in me. I’m on pills but still. He either cums on my ass, stomach or my mouth. Sometimes we would slide his dick back in me and we go for a little longer until he come again. Then we both get up and clean ourself. Clothes back on. Sometimes before I leave he would have me suck him a little more, which sometimes leads him telling me to bend over and fuck a little more (which I LOVE). He definitely doesn’t last long here but it feels so damn good. Then I just get up, he squeezes my boobs one last time and I’m out. Sex last about 45mins to an hour for us.
Usually we’ll make out for a while, including back and neck kisses with a hickey or two under my collarbone. Depending on how we’re feeling, this can be super intense or more light-hearted with laughter. I’ll start giving him a handjob and rub his balls. He loves that. Then I’ll suck his dick for a while. His moaning will make me wet enough and then he fingers me and goes down on me. I would ideally like to have more time with this but I can’t usually wait and we end up having sex. Mostly it’s just missionary. Sometimes doggy. That’s if we go a second time. I’m the type who doesn’t really need to orgasm every time we have sex, it’s more of the entire act that satisfies me but if I decide I do want to, then he sucks on my nipples while I get myself off. I don’t really mind this but I do want him to do it, I just feel bad cause I take a while. Clean up and cuddle, then fall asleep. There’s a lot of smiles, looking into his eyes, small pecks and sometimes just staring at each other. There’s a lot of aspects that I think will improve over time as we just started dating and he’s a little new to sex but I like him so much that I’m willing to give it some time and work on together.
Kissing for literally maybe a minute lol then Me giving him head. Normally on my knees. Licking and sucking his balls. Then I normally get on top and ride him till I cum. Then we go to missionary or doggy. Then switch it up to the other we haven’t done yet and he cums inside me. Lots of choking .. him biting me. Lots of making out. Sometimes he spits in my mouth. Lots of dirty talk. Sometimes ass play where he fucks my asshole or eats it. But that’s normally how it goes. We always start with me giving oral then do all positions.