Me and this girl have been together for a few months now. Feelings are kinda starting to grow and the sex also keeps getting better, I have a small problem do.
She recently admitted that she likes rough sex. I’m not that experienced in having sex yet and don’t really know what she means.
I think I kinda do know that she wants to get pounded hard or get choked, but I don’t really like that. I’m more the type of guy who likes it slow and very ‘close’ all the time.
Do some of you maybe have some tips for me? I could use some other visions on this.
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Use handcuffs made for sex. This way you can still be a little more gentle while you learn but she will get the benefit of feeling “overpowered” essentially.
Have a conversation with her about what exactly it is she is looking for. Ask her what rough sex means to her and then see where you can meet her in that desire. If you are not comfortable with what she is asking for, then just tell her that doesn’t work for you and see where you guys can adjust things so everyone’s desires are safely and happily met.
Honestly I use to be like this. It took so long for me to get to the point we’re I’m choking, slapping and spitting in mouths, but the biggest push was understanding that I’m not satisfying my partner the way they want to be, and I’m big on pleasing my partners so I got with the program and ended up liking it myself.