As the title suggests. So. I am having a weird mental conundrum. My partner and I are both givers in bed and our love language in general is acts of service. We absolutely get off on pleasuring our partner and seeing them turned on.
Due to circumstances beyond our control, we went almost a month without having sex. So finally when we could, the sex was phenomenal. The only problem is; the last couple times I feel like I’ve done nothing in participation.
He’s basically been making sure I get off as many times as possible before allowing himself to climax or before we both get too tired. He’s been absolutely amazing in bed and I love everything he’s been doing, but I really want to pleasure him as well. I want to also be able to give him head, worship his body, etc.
At most the last couple times, I will spend some time on top of him until my hips get tired and this just isnt enough for me. If he notices he does something that makes me react positively, he will continue doing that for a while. I love him for all of this, it’s like every woman’s dream come true, but I really want to be able to do the same for him.
Last time, I tried to go down on him before piv, and he stopped me and gradually laid me on top of him (back to chest) and began piv. He then got on top of me in a position similar to doggy and he even admitted loving being able to pleasure me while ensuring I couldn’t do anything but enjoy it.
I know he gets off on this, I know he gets enjoyment out of my enjoyment, but I also get off on his enjoyment and I want to return the sentiment. I talked to my best friend about it, and she said to say nothing and just enjoy it, let him worship my body. I found this answer dissatisfying. I don’t know what to do about it. I know I don’t want to be doing nothing during sex.
Tl;Dr: My partner and I are both givers in bed but recently only he has been giving and actively preventing me from servicing him. I love him for this but wish he would let me return the favor.
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You really just have to vocalize it. Tell him how much it turns you on to suck his dick and pleasure him. Tell him I don’t want to cum until I satisfy you, and make that happen 🙂
It sounds like you have a great and understanding relationship. I’m sure you can either talk to him about this or plan a kinky surprise where you have the bedroom set up and take control. You can even combine the two, undress him slowly whilst telling him how great he has been but now it’s your turn to satisfy him.
He will.
If only been a couple times. Plus he feels manlier and powerful when he makes you cum over and over. He’s having just as much fun. “giving and receiving” is an overused expression,. And I assure you he’s having as much fun, if not more.
Reverse the situation a min. Wouldn’t YOU feel happy and powerful and NOT CHEATED if you did all that to him?
Exactly. You’re relationship is beautiful, and soon you’ll be pleasing and worshiping his body as well.
I envy you.
You don’t need to do anything crazy to not be a pillow pincess. Grab at him, move your hips, talk if that is what you are into. You getting on top every now and then is already enough.