TL;DR: Pretty straight forward. Context – my boyfriend (m34) is going through some things, resulting in us separating. Nothing bad has happened between us- it’s just a long story. We still talk and see each other and care about each other. That said, he isn’t sure what the future holds.
I’ve (f32) been struggling with the concept of moving on. I don’t want to waste time on someone, but I have never felt so strongly in my gut/heart/brain that he was “the one”. I’ve never felt that way about anyone before (for reference, dated someone for 7 years and had nightmares about marrying him). I felt that he was the one pretty early in our relationship- to the point it deterred me from seeing him in the beginning because I wasn’t “ready” for that. So now I’m asking myself if you can be wrong? Because if you can be wrong, how do you ever know.
Love is complicated.
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If someone was “the one” it would work out.
Of course you could be wrong. You could believe that someone is “the one” for you, but that person doesn’t believe that you’re “the one” for them. Or it could have been true at one point, but it ceases to be true.
You’re wrong when the other person doesn’t feel the same way. Then it’s usually that you see what could be, rather than what _is_