I’m trying to put myself out there and I still can’t make any genuine connections. What am I doing wrong?

I’m posting this in hopes of getting some advice. I’m 26F and I cannot for the life of me make any friends. I’ve always struggled with making friends as a kid but it seems so much worse now as an adult.

I didn’t make a single friend in college; I hung out with a few of my coworkers like once or twice and later found out they stopped inviting me but continued to hang out outside of work; and now that I’m living in a new city, I’ve tried Bumble, going to events, trying different hobbies and activities after work, and still nothing. It’s like I can’t say or do the right thing. I’m a great listener (a little too good to the point people only talk about themselves without bothering to learn more about me) but I guess I’m just not interesting enough.

I don’t know what to do. I’m putting myself out there and failing. I envy how easily others can make friends and I feel like a pathetic loser who can’t make a single one…