I love anal sex. But my husband can’t prenetrate me there because he cums too quick. He says he can’t handle cause is too tight. So i ask him to finger me. He do i cum is so good but i wish it was his penis there. I think we did manage to do anal sex like 2 or 3 times, we are together for 4 years. Is this normal? He can’t handle much. Vaginal too. Like 10 min top he cum and is done. He still finger me and do his job lol but i want his penis inside of me. He should check for a doctor but he is too ashamed. Someone is going through this and has some advise?
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Can he cum again after a break? Usually the second time takes longer
You can get desensitising gel/spray that might help.
Try it more often. Monthly, weekly, daily. The more he gets used to it maybe he can last.
10 mins of vaginal penetration and cumming is above average. Just make sure you change positions and take breaks.
Round 2, if he can get hard again, usually takes longer. And else: try some viagra or something similar.
Have him take a estrogen blocker. Anastrozole or letrozole.
That’s usually quite normal apparently according to stats however the range they say can be wide so 5 mins-30 mins just depends on the man. Unfortunately my husband lasts way too long lol 😂 at times he can cum quick but it’s very rare in our situation. I’m just speaking vaginally but I would just recommend like desensitizing sprays maybe? That could help or just doing what you are seeming to already do. Do other things first to make the whole experience longer or have sex multiple times if he can.
Try using a very good silicone based lube like Exxtreme Glide Silicone, Pjur Backdoor, Uberlube… to reduce friction in relation to the thrusting…
Also, a thumb or a buttplug inside the tushy during piv is also nice …
You could try it more often so it doesn’t feel new every time. Or if this doesn’t work maybe you can try a dildo which he will use instead of his finger while he is inside you
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10 min on top? I wish I could last that long lol. Maybe have sex more often or have him masturbate before hand.
Have him use a dildo on your ass!
My ex husband came so quick from anal when we first started doing it but over time he lasted longer. But vaginal penetration he could last anywhere from 5 to 30 minutes depending on how horny he was or if he wanted a quickie or not
First how old is he? Have him check his testosterone level. If it’s on the lower side that might be the issue. One way to tell is fitgue or morning hard on. If he dont get them thennits low. Get shots for testosterone or do the the pellets. Both of you will be very happy.
For vaginal sex I’m a big fan of penis sleeves, especially if the guy is too quick, as it reduces some sensation for him and usually prolongs it. I don’t know about using one for anal sex though… that’s your call.