So a couple years ago, I was desperate to lose my virginity and go on my first date, and have a girlfriend. So I met that girl, a couple of dates later, I am trying to to lose my virginity with her.
The issue was, I don’t know if it was from watching porn, or the fact that I was nervous it being my first time (well, my heart was beating like crazy) but I couldn’t get hard. I couldn’t get an erection or at least hard enough, but I tried penetrating, and couldn’t do it. I couldn’t go inside her, despite being genital contact.
I had an ex years later and after telling her my story, she told me that I am not a virgin, but I told her I don’t know if I am or not because I didn’t penetrate, she told me that it didn’t matter, I’m not a virgin.
I am a 24, I don’t know what it’s like to enjoy sex, I still have that “virgin innocence” so to speak and get a little nervous when I think about sex sometimes, and imagine what it’s like to have sex.
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It’s not really something to be nervous about. As a dude, either you have to penetrate it be penetrated to lose your virginity. Hetero sex really has no big “pop” for a guy on that first time.
You are still a virgin by Western standards, but you seem not so much that….
The concept of virginity is stupid.
It doesn’t really matter and it completely depends on her definition of it.
By most definitions of virginity a lesbian could sleep with 10 women a night and still be a virgin.
And you can still ‘lose your virginity’ even if you don’t remember it. How dumb is that? No point walking around with the label of ‘had sex’ to show you have some experience if you can’t even remember what you did. The next time anything happens it is going to be like your first time.
People shouldn’t ask, ‘are you a virgin?’ but, ‘do you have any sexual experience?’. Sex can often not be a binary thing where you have either done it or not according to some outdated definition. It is more of a sliding scale.
And you don’t ‘lose your virginity’ in my opinion, you don’t lose anything, you only gain experience.
I mean virginity is honestally whenever you enter the sexual world really. The ides that virginity is whenever piv happens is just a perverted messed up way of thinking.