Apologies for how stupid I am about to sound. I (18F) recently lost my virginity to my boyfriend (21M) and when we have sex, he hasn’t always finished. At first, if he wouldn’t finish he would tell me he was tired and we would stop. Now, he just pulls out and I really can’t tell most of the time if he finished or not. I can’t really feel it even though he typically finishes inside, and he doesn’t make it very obvious during sex when he’s coming. I end up not knowing sometimes until I stand up and feel cum leaking out. I tried to tell him to tell me if he’s tired so I can get on top after (he asked me to do this once when that happened but never after) but he just assures me not to worry about it. I will try to look at his penis to tell but I am obviously inexperienced and really don’t know how long it takes after climax for it to completely go back to soft – which is essentially what I would like to know. I know the best thing would probably just be to ask him but he’s kind of awkward about these things.
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Only way to know is ask, also talking is the only way to get comfortable communicating about sex and the only way to get better at sex.
Best of luck to you young human.
Only way to know is ask, also talking is the only way to get comfortable communicating about sex and the only way to get better at sex.
Best of luck to you young human.
Just pull up your big girl panties and ask! 😊 You could do it in a sexy way, like tell him how much it turns you on when he cums inside of you while yall are doing it. Turn your confusion into dirty talk while he’s fucking you…it might help.
He can probably work his way through this with different types of help available. He may be researching it or otherwise trying to learn how and/or to get help on how to address the issue. If you decide to talk to him about it, I would suggest asking him if there is anything you can do to help. And if there is, please let you know.