We’ve been married for 5.5 months, no children, and no liabilities together.
He has recently started reselling women’s clothing so he is constantly contacting women online to purchase their used clothing — he is making a profit on them. The clothing he is selling/re-selling is yoga and tights so he’s browsing photos of young girls wearing sports bras and booty shorts all day (I see it on his phone) and it’s starting to take a toll on my confidence. He even asked me what I thought of this women’s outfit and I said I wasn’t a fan of the colour, and he’s like “yeah”. Am I being too insecure? It honestly does not make me feel great because I know he wouldn’t appreciate me staring at half-naked males all day.
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Firstly, have you mentioned your feelings to him about this?
You need to express yourself to him and see what his thoughts are. If he’s solely doing this for income and it is generating income, then I don’t see the harm but it’s your relationship so you need to talk to your husband about it.
Why has your husband recently started reselling women’s clothing? What was his job before this? Is this his only job? How much money on an annual basis is he pulling in from reselling these clothes? Does he actually pull in a decent annual salary or is this more like extra beer money? Sorry I need to know all of these things before I can craft a proper response.
One thing I will say is that I’m 32F and been married to my 33M husband for 7 months and if he started reselling women’s yoga pants as his main source of income he’d better be bringing home the big bag bc that shit’s bizarre and creepy if not.
Is he selling the clothes for some sort of weird kink or is it just for money? If the latter, you are taking something personally that literally could not have anything less to do with you.
If your husband is making money with a genuine online business it will be improving both your lives and without wanting to be ride I have to say it’s probably one of those times when you need to keep your mouth shut. If you feel like it’s a weird kink thing or something that obviously different. But business is business. Think of any random, large scale product. Let’s use toilet paper for an example. Somewhere in the world, someone has been made a millionaire by selling or making toilet paper. Do you think that person has an interest in toilet paper? Do you think they fantasise about it, love it and have dreams of toilet paper? Probably no. It’s just a way to make make money. If your husbands business looks like a genuine money maker why not support him and improve both your lives?
I jumped to two conclusions after reading this post. 1. He has some sort of sexual fetish for this 2. He’s a cross dresser and enjoys wearing these things. Sorry, but I’m not buying that it’s for profit. As somebody who uses EBay and Poshmark regularly, there is no way you can make an entire living just off reselling yoga used pants. Let’s say somebody sold him a pair of used Lululemon leggings (originally $100 new) on Poshmark for $50. Then he sells them for $80. That’s a gross profit of $30. And a net profit of $14 (factor in the 20% fee). $14 is less than minimum wage where I live and you’re telling me a week long buying and selling transaction is earning the same amount? People resell and upcycle things all the time for a living… on Etsy. And it’s not used Lululemon yoga pants. You also mention you’re the sole breadwinner in the family. Meaning this “business” of his is pointless. I would try hard to get to the bottom of what he’s doing because it ain’t making money.
Just might – might, maybe, who knows – your boyfriend is waving a big red flag in your face by selling soiled young women’s gym clothes, shorts. He makes a profit, and just think the gains if he sells soiled panties as well? Not yet? Okay. but seems a logical step.
Even if it just stays to soiled clothes, is that something you’re comfortable relating to family and friends? If so, no problem
OP, are you sure this is a legitimate business? Have you seen the actual paperwork, bank statement, anything that proves he is genuinely earning an income off of selling used clothing?
Based on some of your comments, it seems he is not even on resale subreddits… Like, he is purely going to subreddits of workout clothing and/ or nsfw subreddits and bugging the content creators for their clothes?!
There is absolutely no way he is able to compile enough inventory and make a profit by asking random women for their clothing on reddit. I would block an account like that SO fast. I’m sorry, but there’s just no way its possible for him to run a profitable business by asking the fine ladies of reddit for their old lulus.