Edit: To hang out specifically
Hi! This is a concern I have because I do have friends but I don’t think anyone likes me that much because no one ever asks me to hang out.
I have a group of friends which I wish I were closet to. They always upload stories showing they were casually hanging out. They live in the same part of the city so I get that I can’t always be invited but sometimes they invite other people who also live in other parts of the city.
I’ve told one of them to hang out but… yeah they never have time. Maybe I’m just unlikable?
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Be the first to reach out, easy. Then people will, eventually, invite you back
I don’t!!!!!
Well that’s your problem there, thinking not everyone likes you that much because no one ever asks you to hang out, but if you never ask them
To hang out maybe they don’t think you want to so try initiating with the group of friends you’re closest to
Think about it this way. You want people to text/invite/connect with you, which is fine. But why should people text/invite/connect with you ? The truth is people subconsciously attach you to the value you bring to your interactions. In other words, there has to be a clear, unique, and convincing reason for people to reach out to you. People gather this from the quality of conversations you have with them. You reaching out or knowing them for a long time isn’t simply enough for them to reach out to you. You have to genuinely connect with them in person, be confident in expressing yourself in person, and bring positive vibes. Even better, find ways to add to people’s lives. Maybe you have a skill, hobby, or talent that aligns with people’s interests. Let them know about it. Offer to help people in some aspect of life. People respect those who impact their lives.
In general, people are hardwired to be repulsed by neediness and desperation. They gravitate towards somebody who is self confident and well-rounded in life. You need to focus on becoming genuinely busy in life pursuing your goals and hobbies, while learning how to interact with other people on the side. Find something you enjoy doing or are passionate for and keep doing it overtime. Find groups in your area who are also pursuing the same thing. Chase excellence, not people.