I (21F) personally feel awful even typing this out but things have just gotten too far. we’ve been together for almost a year. my partner (20M) has had a really bad porn addiction and it’s like 90% impulse for him to just.. get off whenever he’s alone. I, myself have my own mental health issues (a lot of sexual trauma) and it makes me incredibly insecure about myself to the point where I’m purposefully hypersexualizing myself for him. But alas, to no avail because he just keeps oogling at other people online. and that’s all. he’s. doing.
it just makes me feel really invalidated and like I’m just not enough. whenever I try to explain that to him, he gets upset and angry. he said the next time i bring it up, we’re breaking up. i just want him to get better and I just genuinely don’t know what to do.
TLDR: bf has a really bad porn addiction w some questionable content and I feel really insecure due to that and my trauma. He gets angry when I say I feel insecure. help.
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He would rather break up than be a good boyfriend to you. He doesn’t want to get better. This is who he wants to be right now. If this relationship is damaging your mental health, take care of yourself and end it.
I originally thought there could be hope if professional help was sought, but him getting mad when you say you’re insecure is too big a red flag to ignore. Find yourself someone who not only is more aligned with you sexually but also who cares about your feelings and doesn’t completely invalidate you like that. You deserve better.
You need to break up. He needs to seek actual help. You are too young to be caught up in this drama.