My girlfriend and I got into a small petty fight yesterday. My girlfriend and I had made plans and then my girlfriend cancelled on me leaving me unhappy and upset. She decided to ignore me the entire day because of this and text me back before i went to bed asking me how I was feeling. I didn’t respond to her text and i woke up to another text being gaslit for the entire fight happening yesterday. Tomorrow’s my birthday and I feel this is just really insensitive and my feelings are hurt. On top of this, my sister told me she has heard rumors from other boys that my girlfriend has been flirting with other people at her workplace. I have been very upset hearing about that, don’t know how valid that may be but I’m anxious at the thought of her being promiscuous around other men. Where should I go from here? Very unsure what my next move should be.
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Seems like neither of you are mature enough for this relationship.
It sounds like you’ve stacked a bunch of issues you have together:
– her abusing you via gaslighting and cold shouldering
– her cancelling plans on you
– (potentially) inappropriate behavior in her workplace
How old are you? How long have you been together? Is this part of a pattern of behavior?
There’s so many different things here. Why did she cancel? How did you respond? I assume not well if she ignored you, since you said “because of this.” Then she asked how you were feeling and you played games and ignored it.
Since we have no idea what the fight was about, we can’t really know if she gaslit you or not. There’s just no information here.
Separately, your birthday is tomorrow. This fight has absolutely nothing to do with it. Your birthday wasn’t yesterday. It’s not today. It’s tomorrow. You’re associating a fight with your birthday that’s not even here. It’s ridiculous.
As for the rumors, rumors are rumors. With no evidence, it’s nothing but talk. If you think your girlfriend can’t be trusted, then end things. But all of this stuff is completely unrelated. If you’re unhappy in the relationship, then don’t be in the relationship. But don’t lump all of this stuff together.
We can’t tell you what to do next. There’s very little substance here.
Op provide info about how old you guys are, so we know how to address your post. Anw these things happen to each one of us, one partner is more loyal than the other… all I can say about your situation is she needed that small fight as an excuse for something else OR she could be planning something like a birthday surprise, cheer up!
Get a brand new girlfriend. Once that doesn’t play stupid games.