So my boyfriend keeps saying he doesn’t think think he’s EVER — in the whole time I’ve been dating him exclusively — he doesn’t think he’s liked a girls like “thirst traps” and I know for a fact he has bc I saw he did, I was lurking. He liked her photos way before I was in the photo and even six months into us being boyfriend and girlfriend in 2021. The most recent being 8 months ago.
We were talking about why guys do that and that it feels disrespectful. I brought up the topic but I didn’t tell him I knew he did it. I’ve brought it up twice and each time he genuinely has said he’s sure he hasn’t done this, or not that he remembers. He tried reassuring me he wouldn’t do that to me. He feels so sure he said fine if u got proof show me. My good versus petty side is floundering right now. I mean I found this girls profile while lurking maybe in March but haven’t brought it up and I keep trying to forget it but I keep feeling upset at it. Like I wonder if there are messages too. Also my own self consciousness is making its way through because she’s thick and I’m not so when I think about it I wonder if I’m even his type. I know looks aren’t everything but invasive thoughts about not being his ideal “type” have been festering.
Should I bring it up to him or keep it quite and just try to let it go because otherwise our relationship is good and he does a lot to reassure me.
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Hi! I’m exactly the same, any sort of liking of thirst traps sends anger through my veins. As you acknowledged, I think it more so has to do with us feeling insecure or subconscious going forward comparing ourselves to these girls. It’s mental torture. If he wants the proof + he’s the kind of guy who is not likely to combat it with accusing you of not trusting him or doesn’t see an issue because “it’s just a picture, it means nothing” then I would communicate it with him for some reassurance. If he is one of those guys 🚩🚩🚩🚩. Guys never understand the concept that they can just simply look at the photo. Why like it?? I hope all turns out well and he realizes how disrespectful it is towards you!!