Hey, I’m trans masc (he/they), aroace and one and a half years on testosterone, I didn’t have sex prior to HRT so my only experiences are from being on it and I take localised estrogen to help with atrophy. I’m also on duloxetine and haven’t experienced sex off of it (can’t safely go off of it at this time).
Earlier this year I got over vaginismus by dilating and changing my mindset around sex and sexual activities. My girlfriend and I are both autistic which I’ve heard can also make our nervous system experiences different to allistic people but I don’t know if it’s that.
My girlfriend (MTF) and have started having PIV and I do enjoy it but it doesn’t feel the way I’ve seen people describe? The sensation itself isn’t even inherently sexual for me, it’s more what my girlfriend is doing/saying that makes it feel sexual.
For me I only feel about the first 2 inches of my body properly then the rest almost feels like numbing cream has been put on it. We’ve tried strap ons, fingers, tongue and g-spot vibrators as well but it was the same. The feeling itself is warm, filling and intimate but most of my enjoyment comes from mental stimulation instead of the physical stuff which I think is one of the reasons I enjoy kink in play.
To be clear I’m not asking for sex alternatives or anything, I’m well aware that we can stimulate my bottom growth during sex and such, I’m more wondering if anyone else has had a similar experience and if so if you were able to change it or change your view of it?
I don’t know if any of this is unnecessary information, I just thought it could be useful to have it in the post.