Me (21 F) and my boyfriend (21 M) had been dating for 5 months. So last week he texted me that he wanted to talk about something and then later that day he said he thinks we should end our relationship as a couple .
Now 3 days prior we both lost a friend ( it was an accident but I won’t go into details) . So obviously we were both grieving that loss . So the day he broke up with me , we had kind of a ceremony at our university in memory of the friend we lost. So after that that I was hanging out with my friends ( and also we are basically in the same friend group but he socializes less than me) and he was there too. He noticed me there and for some reason it made him think that o didn’t need him anymore ( because I was smiling and if I could smile in a time of sadness then I don’t need him) and left that place without telling me. Later that night he tells me that he wants to break up with me and calls me too and summary of the conversation is : He thinks I don’t need him and there are other people who can do the things he did and he is useless in my life . I tried to convince him and asked him repeatedly if he was sure and if it was what he wanted and he said yes . So I said goodbye and decided it was not meant for me
The next day he texts me again and after asking some others questions, he then proceeds to ask me if there was any chance we could get back. At that moment I was very annoyed and it was late so I said I don’t want to talk about it now. The following day he texted me again and I replied I needed time since I can’t be as impulsive as him ( yes he said later on that he was impulsive and he should have thought more before taking this decision)
Now one thing I admit that I should have been more attentive towards him but I don’t think that should make him want to break up with me. So at this point I am confused what I should do. Should I get back with him or should I move on?
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Is this the first time he’s done this?