my bf and I will cuddle for hours and he will always get a boner. But doesn’t having a boner for hours hurt?? Am I supposed to give him a hand job or is he initiating sex? for context I haven’t had many sexual partners so I don’t know much.

7 comments

  1. It’s completely normal that he gets one! He probably doesn’t even notice he gets one half of the time. They shouldn’t hurt at all either.

  2. If you see a boner, and if you are horny, try frisking a bit. If he’s horny you’d have sex, else it’s just a false alarm. Leave him alone . Lol

  3. Boner != horny.

    Long lasting boners can get uncomfortable; but, they don’t hurt by themselves.

  4. You aren’t “supposed” to give him a handjob. If you want to you can but you don’t need to do something you don’t want just because he’s hard

  5. It’s the nuts that hurt,yes prolonged erection for hours will hurt really bad later,
    But no rush to get him off,the experience of intimacy during cuddling it’s just as nice as sex
    If you want to blow his mind say out of your mouth “you can have me” or “ill let you do anything you want”
    It’s best if you wait until you’re ready

  7. Eventually it will, but we’re probably talking about more than your cuddle length. Just having a boner isn’t initiating sex. And if you don’t want to do anything with it you don’t have to, and it sounds like he’s ok with that given that he continues cuddling. If he’s not satisfied, he will let you know.

    If you are asking if he would appreciate sex or if you are asking if you can use this as an excuse to give him a handjob, then go ahead.

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