My wife had a long term affair with her swim coach. I found out and she eventually ended the affair. The sex we had after I found out was very intense and awesome. Now every time we have sex I think of her being with another man or another man joining us in the bedroom. It’s gotten so bad that I have a hard time reaching orgasm unless she role plays or talks about having another lover. She’s aware of this and is willing to role play and talk dirty, but thinks it’s a little obsessive. I also think it’s become an a little too much. I’m thinking about seeing a counselor. Anyone else have a similar experience? Any suggestions on how to get back to normal?
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Keep that as fantasy or allow her to have fun 😉
counseling or therapy is highly recommended, but I’d focus in more on the cheating and trust rebuilding aspects of your relationship. This could just be your brain trying to compensate for those feelings that you can’t face yet
So my wife didn’t have an affair but we did split and she had sex many times with this one guy she met. It has made me want to watch her fuck another guy. I love hearing her stories of fucking him and I often think about it when I’m masturbating. I’ll explore this kink with her while we fuck a fair amount. I’ll ask who she would want to fuck, what would she want to do, and she usually plays along because she knows I like it. She’s even said she will consider it down the road but it’s not likely. I try to keep it as a kink and I’m very open with her about it. I also find her masturbating hot and often think about that and other things she does. So I keep my fantasies varied. Maybe you can try the same?
A fun fantasy is to look at her boobs and imagine how many guys have seen her boobs in a tight shirt and wanted to suck on them. It turns me on and I get to think about my wife’s hot tits.
Good luck and pm me if you want to chat further.
It’s a fetish or kink I dunno. But sounds like your a cuck. Not my thing but whatever you do you and this is a normal thing. What do you really want. Spend 10 or 20 minutes really thinking do you want her cheating or at least and open relationship where she sleeps with others. Don’t over think it just what do you want. Then talk to her. Add a councilor if you wanna spend money to help you talk to her.
Ok this is between you both or a councilor talk. And 20 different ways this could have come about that I could name 3. You are not strange. You are not a freak or pervert. You have an interest that you may not share with everyone like admitting you liked the Mazerunner series. It’s ok. Not gonna lose friends.. Maybe but they are judgemental weirdos now. I may be considered… sexually deviant I guess to because I love literotica lol. I suggest reading or watching some porn together and talking about it. Talk about trust absolutely. And accept! What you both say. As truth and commit to what you state as true. If at any point something is wrong for either of you then you need to talk about it together no one else matters.