Why is it that I’ve noticed more often that heavier set women (not trying to judge here at all) put on their dating bio, “not here for hookups or fwb”
I just find it odd that of all women, you’d think the skinnier looking girls would be the ones that get asked that more often. But yet I rarely see that on their bios. Sorry, I just wanted to get that off my chest. Thank you all for reading
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They have the toxic side of their mentality that someone with that appearance would be looking for no strings attached sex without necessarily it evolving into a relationship.
Easy lay? 🙃
The only difference between me and my sister is I’m “heavy set” and she adheres to the Eurocentric standards of beauty. Otherwise people always ask if we’re twins.
On dating apps. I get more queries about just hook ups or fwb situations than she does.
I think it’s the mentality that we’re an easy lay with less options and therefore more likely to say yes.
Shiiit i didn’t know this. Im not heavy set but put that in my tinder bio that I made yesterday cus im not looking for a hookup haha
WTF is this “heavy set” shit?!?
By listing they aren’t interested in fwb they are hoping to dissuade the people who wouldn’t even ask them out otherwise. They don’t want to me someone’s booty call or one night stand. They want a relationship of some kind.
I don’t actually think it’s very effective though. The people who would do that wouldn’t ask their opinion and they would figure it out after a month or so.
I assume it’s because men might think they have lower standards so open to ONS/FWB and get prepositioned all the time.
Because when even your own mother says things like, “You should be flattered a guy like that is interested in a [fat] girl like you,” it churns a cycle of shame and people pleasing. I was about 16. I’m 54 and still dealing with the psychology of it all.
I’m slender by American standards and I have that in my bio. The week I added that, my matches went from probably 10-15 a day to maybe 3 a week. That’s why. I don’t know that it has anything to do with weight. It’s more about weeding out who wants a relationship and who doesn’t.
I believe it is because guys are more likely to target less attractive women for casual sex. On the flip side, they’re more likely to want to be in a relationship with more attractive women.
So, guy sees a 6/10 who he is somewhat sexually attacted to and he might take a shot at trying to have sex with her, but not want much more. Same guy sees a 9/10 and his interest will be to date her.
I think it makes sense, and yes men are generally that shallow IMO (am a man).
Because they’re viewed as only good enough for sex pretty often, but not girlfriend or wife material. So they have to make it as clear as possible.
I don’t understand why people are looking for LTR on a site literally created for
Hookups