Me and my gf have started getting more intimate, weve had sex like 7 times, shes jerked me off countless times and ive fingered her and ate her countless times. The thing is, when she is playing w me w her hand, i last like 45 mins, it feels so good and i love it, but it takes too long but its not her. One time in the shower with her, it took me, with my own hand, like 30 mins to finish on her, and like nothing came out. We have lots of foreplay and im thinking that its the long amount of foreplay and being hard for a good amount of time that makes me last longer. The thing is, she thinks its her and she thinks she is bad at pleasuring me, and i tell her thats its not her, its me and that she is doing amazing at everything. I love foreplay so much and i dont wanna stop foreplay early so i can finish a bit quicker. During sex, i last for 30+ mins and both of us stop without orgasming bc she is in pain from being new to sex. I dont know what to do, i like foreplay but i also wanna last an amount that wouldnt be exhausting to either of us. I j dont want it to make her think she is bad at pleasuring me. It feels amazing but it isnt doing anythting.
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By any chance are you currently taking an SSRI (Prozac, Lexapro, etc.)? That can interfere with your ability to achieve orgasm…
Ease off the masterbation and if you watch porn, cut that out. I assume you are using condoms. If you are jerking it, use a condom there too. Helps your body to get used to them.