He’s and athlete, morning person, likes hiking, camping, cars, NBA, sports in general (watching and playing), conspiracy theories, politics.
Me in the other hand love music, instruments, art, movies, I’m very passionate about movie franchises/sagas, fashion, Im a night owl.
In terms of lifestyle, upbringing and family values we are the same, grew up in the same schools, education, went to the same places/entertainment, both our families are very similar. We’ve been together for 4 years, we have a very healthy relationship and we are very happy and in love and love spending time with each other it flows naturally, but sometimes I become frustrated because we don’t share much hobbies in common. I go with him to hikes and watch NBA games and do the effort to talk about his topics and express interest and I do enjoy it most of the time but sometimes it’s hard when you don’t have 100% interest in those things, same happens to him with me, he goes to concerts, listens to me talk about music for hours (and he asks questions occasionally ) goes to museums and watches every Marvel movie with me without understanding a thing. But he as well doesn’t feel as passionate and excited as I do about this topics. And of course we notice this about each other. Don’t get me wrong we do this gladly and always try to enjoy it and even try to make it an aquired taste. But still my question is…
Couples/Married couples how you handle this in the long run? How you make specifically this work? You find new hobbies together? Or just try and do what your SO likes forever. You don’t grow frustrated or bored with time? How do you keep hobbies interesting?
Edit1: of course we don’t spend 100% of our time together, he’s got his hiking/camping groups and friends and I’ve got my hipster friends etc, but still I don’t want this to be a thing that separates us or create distance in the long run.
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Maybe try to find some new hobbies you both share?
You want to get married with this man? Have children with him?
How much free time will you have for your hobbies when you’ve got a two-year-old who still won’t sleep through the night, and another baby on the way? The importance of this disparity will dwindle, until you’ll laugh at yourself for having worried about it.
What matters is that you are able to compromise despite the differences. You already go out of your way to join his hobbies, and he does his best to share yours with you. You enjoy spending time together, and the mismatch does not produce conflict. This is a lot more important than sharing hobbies from the start. You can have a couple who both *love* hiking, and yet come to blows over which brand of tent they should buy together.