Okay, last weekend I (F36) had to attend a meeting where two of the men were quite attractive to me. For sure I was the only single female as they all had their rings on but there was no way of telling if the two men I fancied were single. They had on no rings even though they seemed to be in their late thirties /early forties.
I also met some interesting match on Tinder with whom we instantly hit it off only for him to confess he is married. It was not on his profile. Dude, why come in Tinder??? Had to block him after he started to suggest he’d like to date me regardless.
Whilst I understand not everyone lives to wear a band, but it really really does help.
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If you *really* want to know why I don’t wear a ring and have a strong stomach, google finger degloving.
I haven’t worn my wedding band in 15 years after I had a close call.
I don’t wear a ring because I often do work with my hands that could result in a broken finger if I had a ring on. My partner doesn’t wear a ring because he gets bouts of eczema.
On the other hand, I’ve known widows and widowers who’ve kept their ring on even when they’re ready to date again.
I mean this in the gentlest way possible, maybe the best way to find out if someone is married is to ask them?
What if they aren’t married but are seriously dating? Marriage and/or a ring don’t really make a difference.
never got a ring, obviously never wore one, my inapproachable nature prevents any issues with women thinking I am available or interested
I am happily married and don’t wear a wedding ring. I stopped wearing it when I was too puffy from pregnancy and just never put it back on. If anybody gets too friendly I just throw a casual ‘I was talking to my husband about that’ into the conversation. A ring doesn’t make a marriage faithful, the people in the marriage do.
both my wife and I lost our bands. These don’t fit well on our fingers. My wife’s fingers are too slender. She lost 3 rings before we gave up. Then I lost a lot of weight leading the band to fall off and get lost as well. So we got tired of buying new rings, which were uncomfortable to wear, and which do what? Remind us we’re married? I’d remember it anyway.
I’m allergic to most metals, that’s why.
I’m not into jewelry. Simple as that.
You can tell I’m taken the same ways you could before I married, through conversation.
And while I understand your frustration, I’m not going to wear one for you because my life and actions aren’t about you. Your convenience isn’t the center of my life or a priority.
Maybe those men you were attracted to aren’t married.
Lots of men don’t wear them though, it’s true.
You are making assumptions about people and generalizing.
Why do you assume all men 30-40 are married?
Why do you assume people are only in monogomous relationships?
The issue us your assumptions.