Im 24F and Ive recently gotten into a relationship with a wonderful guy and we’ve been dating for 3 months (LDR). Ive never had sex before but he has and we decided on doing it one day. Im 5’2 and hes 6’0 so it took us some time to find the right position. The first time he put it in, it hurt so bad and only half of his dick went in and he said that it felt like there was a wall and he couldnt go further. (We had a very long foreplay session)
The pain was so bad that he stopped after a few mins and immediately came cuz he said I was really tight. Is sex supposed to hurt the first couple of times for someone who’s never had penetrative sex before? Is there something wrong? Are there any tips to ease the pain and for him to completely go in?
I felt bad that I couldn’t perform well but he kept reassuring me that its okay and we can work towards it. Ladies, would like to know if I’m the only one who’s been through this or if it’s normal and something that can be overcome.
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It can definitely hurt for somebody’s first time, especially a girl. The reality is that MOST people first few times suck. Even for experienced people that just started dating it can take a few tries to find what works for both of you. For a girl their first time might be really painful, she may bleed, good chance she doesn’t orgasm, etc. For a guy he might not be able to stay hard, he might not be able to find the clit/hole/g spot, he might finish early, or he may never finish.
The key is just to take things really slowly. Don’t rush anything. Take your time. Talk to your partner during sex and tell them what feels good and what doesn’t. Use lube if things hurt. Maybe have a drink or two to get more relaxed (but be careful! Make sure you’re sober and able to consent properly) Have him finger you a bit slowly before penetration to help you get ready for something bigger. And don’t have him put half of it in immediately, he can start off with just a little bit of it in, make some movement with just that part, and then slowly work towards more and more. It will take some time but it’ll get better. If you’ve tried a lot and things still don’t work out, then it’s time to consider seeing a doctor. It’s more likely just because you were a virgin, but in some cases there ARE medical conditions that can cause this.
Good luck and be safe!
Very glad to hear about the foreplay session since many guys don’t think it’s that important… It’s VERY important!
Relaxes the muscles, extends the vagina and even the cervix depth and lubes everything up!
The first time HURTS! But the more you do it the less it will hurt, until it starts feeling nice.
Don’t stress, it’s normal