This happened about 18 times in the last 3 months
I have amazing social skills and wit one night, specially when I meet new people then the day after it’s like I don’t want to ever talk to them again even though I like them
I feel the need to so I force myself to I just end up coming off uninterested in the conversation, thinking about other stuff and barely really saying anything other than simple answers
Has anyone went through this before and if so how did you “fix” it?
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Could be you’re only looking for self validation in those new people you meet and once you have observed you’re well liked, your need has been met and therefore no need to continue the relationship. You’re not interested in them, you’re interested in what they think of you.
Could be you put on a mask to charm them; and because it wasn’t your authentic self that won them over, you have to put forth energy to be your masked self. That can be really draining and make it feel like you’re entertaining folks rather then bonding with them.
Could be that you’re afraid you can’t top yourself or maintain the level of interaction and energy as you did the first time meeting them. Again, this being very draining and with little reward for yourself; talking to those people again could feel like a job more than mutual pleasure. Also, that can manifest as socail anxiety.
The fix: do want you actually want to do in the first place