If that’s you’re thing, I’m happy for you. I’ll never shame someone for their preferences. I just really don’t understand the appeal of bringing someone else into it. For me it takes away the beautiful intimacy that sex offers, especially if it’s with someone you’re in a committed relationship with.
Again, I’m gonna emphasize that I’m absolutely not shaming you if that’s your thing. If my partner suggested a threesome I don’t know if I’d be able to look at them the same way anymore, but that’s just me.
Does anyone else feel the same way? If you’re into this stuff, where do you find the appeal? I’m just curious and trying to stay open minded.
Thanks!
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So, just to clarify, if you’re not shaming anyone for this being their vibe, but you would look at your partner differently, what would make you look at them differently?
We personally like it because we are two bisexual people in a straight relationship, so we can also fulfill the desires of having experiences with the same gender as ourselves.
Yep, I wouldn’t want it either. I don’t want to share my girlfriend. I’ve gotten off on the idea of group sex but I’m not sure that I’d actually do it IRL.
A lot of people feel the same way as you. Others, like myself, can separate love & emotion from physical sex. Watching my wife get pounded by her boyfriend, being able to just sit back and watch her face as she orgasms over and over again is so beautiful. Obviously I enjoy making her orgasm as well, but when I’m doing it, it involves a bit of effort and focus to get her there. When someone else is doing all the heavy lifting, all there’s is for me to do in enjoy the show.
Yes, there was jealousy and fear of losing her as we opened up our relationship, but we talked our way through it and her actions always show that I’m the number one guy in her life, as she is my number one girl.
It most definitely isn’t my thing. Thoughts of engaging in cuckholding make me sick to my stomach. For me, it feels like getting off on being cheated on and there is zero sexual appeal to cheating for me.
For group sex like threesomes, maybe? I’m uncertain. I’d probably end up like many others on here that end up with crippling insecurity after their partner focuses hard on the third / does things with the third that they never do to you.
Here’s a thing, you don’t need to understand it if you’re not into it, it does sound like you are judging though, regardless of your claims otherwise.
People who live the life you don’t understand generally have healthier relationships than those that don’t. I can only live this life because of the sheer amount of love and trust my wife and I have for each other.
The appeal lies in finding the ultimate sexual pleasure and acknowledging that its human nature to have sexual desire for multiple people and not surpressing that because society sees monogamy as normal. We no longer have the pressures and insecurities that monogamous people often experience.
I lovelovelove to share….However I only do it with Exs and those I am not in an active pairbond with…
The best of both worlds as it ends up being super friendly & intimate…
Its called a ‘Stag Vixen’ dynamic as opposed to cuckold/hotwife
Way too many possible complications.
Some ppl think their partner is so great they want to show them off to other ppl. Some ppl get off to their partner being pleasured. Its taboo. It’s exciting. It can provide an experience that u couldn’t achieve/offer on ur own.
Of course, it’s also fairly complex, it’s not for everyone. And it requires a level of trust and communication that is easy to underestimate.
I don’t necessarily define intimacy as something only two people can share. I’ve had threesomes and other group sex that were intimate as fuck. There’s something actually really beautiful about seeing your partner receive pleasure and affection from someone else – it just makes me feel happy on a whole other level. (In poly and ethical non-monogamy communities this is called ‘compersion’.) In addition, I find it really hot when other people are visibly attracted to my partner or seeing her give pleasure to others – like yeah, my bae’s a catch isn’t she? And finally, there’s the fun of having new sexual experiences with new people and getting to bond over all that with my partner.
Of course, it’s not for everyone and if jealousy is *at all* a worry for you, you should steer clear. But for certain kinds of people it’s just really fucking fun.
We like sharing intimacy with others. Probably explains how we fell into the poly triad we’re doing now as well though.
Sharing her or my other partners pleasure with others feels good for me.
First you need to realize, that type of sex has nothing to do with intimacy. It’s strictly a physical sexual release.
Now cuckolding is a completely different matter and I have no real experience with it. I can’t speak to that.
Now in my case, I’ve been a long time swinger. And part of the excitement I get is watching my partner(s) enjoy themselves. It adds a level of excitement to the relationship and can actually increase the intimacy of the couple by sharing the experience.
Everyone has thoughts of different fetishes and kinks some of those are centered around group or partner sharing. If that’s not for you that is perfectly ok. That’s your preference.
Now to address cheating. If you and your partner have agreed and your both being upfront and honest most in the lifestyle do not consider that cheating. Now if your doing this behind your partners back or coercing them when they do not want to participate, that is cheating.
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You don’t have to understand it. I don’t understand or like it either but you should probably not dedicate this much me tak energy into posting about it. Some people like it, you don’t. Move on