Help me make sense of this girl that ghosted me after we hooked up.

I (21m) met this girl (20f) on tinder. We chatted, exchanged snapchats, and planned a coffee date.

Her snap account was weird. Less than 10k snap score and no bitmoji. I’m not usually one to pay too much attention to the score unless it’s ridiculously high or low so this caught me off guard, along with no bitmoji. She later said she got hacked and had to make a new account though it moreso seemed to me like an alternate? Not sure.

I was also unable to find any social media of hers. Facebook, Instagram, Twitter. And before anyone says it’s weird that I looked, I was trying to make sure she exists and I wasn’t being catfished.

Anyway, the day of our coffee date came and I mistakenly overslept. About an hour after our meeting time I woke up and profusely apologized and asked her if she was still around but we just planned for tomorrow. No big deal, I was glad I hadn’t entirely messed this one up yet.

We met the same time and place as our original plan, but the next day, (now a Thursday) and she seemed like she was high or something but I wasn’t sure so I ignored it. We chatted and seemed to get on super well, went into some shops and through the park. She was super affectionate, putting her arms around me and spontaneously jumping on my back for a ride when we were walking through the park. What stood out was when she said she usually just smokes and listens to music for fun and was essentially a college drop out after multiple delays from the pandemic.

Regardless, our personalities seemed to click. Eventually she gave me a blow job in her car in the park. We almost got caught and she made a comment about how she’s usually the one to give someone a wild story then disappear, or something along those lines. She then immediately told me she didn’t have much time to hang out, which I didn’t either but it caught me off guard how she seemed in a rush to get home. Still, I looked past it since she had a roughly half hour drive home and work in 4 hours.

That night we made plans for the very next day, Friday.

So friday comes and she seems noticeably less high than the day prior, though i still didnt ask if she really waa since that was a day ago now. We picked a spot more central and walked around some shops and stuff, before taking a drive to another local park and having sex in the back of my car. This time after we’d finished she told me again that she had to get going, but also made it clear that her parents would be out of town for the weekend, and that I should come over. Unfortunately I was going on a trip from the weekend through the next week, so I was unable to come over.

We kept in touch, texting via snapchat, but her replies became more and more spread out. She mentioned she was busy since a friend from out of state came to visit her for the week, so I asked when she’d be free the next week. Left on read. After a day of not even opening it I noticed she unmatched me from tinder so I added another snap text poking fun at being ghosted. “I’m starting to think you were serious about disappearing” or something along those lines.

Anyways, I figure there’s no point hoping or expecting her to come back for a third date, but I’m just confused. She was willing to drive 30 minutes each way for the first date, willing to do it again after I overslept, was super touchy and affectionate, laughed at my jokes, blew me and had sex with me, invited me over to her house for the weekend, then poof, nothing.

Like I said, I’m confused more than sad or hurt. Was the sex was really bad? Was it something I said or did without realizing? Did she find someone else? Is she just trying to see how many guys she can hook up with?

So many possibilities and unfortunately I’m not sure I’ll get an answer. If she doesn’t open my most recent message I think I’ll text again and say no hard feelings if you’re not interested, but I’d appreciate any type of feedback or reason.