So, I’m dating this really great guy but his grammar is so strange to me. I am by no means an English pro but sometimes I wonder if I’m just trippin’? He says things like “was going to go see u but then I knock out been tired work fuck me up today” “I just want to hung out with you and hug you all night.”
I believe his first language is Spanish. Am I just overreacting? In person he seemed to make perfect sense but over text it’s just hard to read.
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Oh man grammar is huge for me. But hey. We like what we like, ya know?
Maybe he has learned english from the wrong person 😄
If English wasn’t his first language he might not speak or write perfect English, but that doesn’t mean that he is dumb in any shape of form or it doesn’t take away from his personality
If it’s a deal breaker then you know what’s best for you.
Just be happy
He’s Grammer is worse then my’s
Dump he ass
>I believe his first language is Spanish.
>In person he seemed to make perfect sense
He’s learning a second language and he’s understandable in person. If it’s something you feel like is a dealbreaker then you can break it off with him
I grew up in the southwestern U.S..
There are a lot of people there whose first language is not English. The stereotype is that they’re not as smart as English speakers.
But I went and learned Spanish, and I learned that a lot of Spanish-speakers actually speak more than two languages: often Spanish and English and also French or German or Portuguese. Once you realize that, you realize just how incorrect that stereotype can be and how much the opposite is actually true.
Now, when I see someone criticize the English of someone who’s learning English as a second or third language, my first thought is “Well, how well do you speak *their* first language?”
Not only that, but because I’ve learned how to speak Spanish, when I see a grammar mistake from a Spanish speaker, I’m often able to know exactly the reason they made the mistake and exactly what they were trying to say.
If you’re interested in the person, I’d suggest learning a bit about their primary language. It can go really far in terms of developing empathy for them not having perfect grammar in your language, and it can make you understand what an absolutely amazing feat they’ve accomplished by working to learn that second language.
Learning a second language is something to really be respected, and people should be encouraged to do it. Dropping someone because they weren’t yet up to the level you wanted can really discourage that. And people who learn other languages are the people who are the most likely to work to improve their language, so chances are good that it will improve.
You sound racist. How good is your Spanish?
For some people, yes. If someone’s Dutch grammar is really bad and they don’t have dyslexia, I lose my interest tbh. They often refuse to improve it, and it is important to me. It doesn’t have to be perfect though. Still working on my English grammar, because I understand so well that it is a dealbreaker
Normally grammar that bad is a problem for me, but if English isn’t his first language that changes things for me. Maybe you can help him communicate a little more clearly? If you feel like you can effectively communicate in person and you like him, I think I’d try to get through it.
For me it is like bruh, how stupid can you be to not get simple grammar right.