This girl from my HS bought me a customed made black jacket with my #44 from Basketball on the shoulder. She said she was into designing, loved my look with the letterman, and thought it would look awesome in black. She said it was a congratulations gift since I signed to play in college. Anyways, my gf says it’s suspicious and weird. She said it’s odd for other women to be telling me what I look nice in, so I need to give it back. Is she right?
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Yeah this is an inappropriate gift from an acquaintance. If you are close friends, then it is possibly acceptable but even then it would be awkward. If she was associated with the team and she gave it to others as well then it could be acceptable.
It’s not inappropriate that someone told you what you look nice in. But it is a gift you give someone you’re interested in. Unless she’s getting something out of it (maybe she wants you to tell people where you got it? Maybe she needs pictures of you wearing it for her business?).
It does seem unusual, it could be an innocent gift, but tbh to make your GF feel better about it (and to remove any perceived “obligation”, you could offer to buy the jacket off her. That also sends a clear message that the “gift” isn’t seen as a such, it is seen as fashion advice, and you reimbursing her.
It could be a pang of jealousy from for GF, which can be healthy in tiny amounts (would you feel ok if a guy did this for her?), after all if she didn’t care (or you wouldn’t care) that could be a red flag for a relationship; if you two didn’t feel even a smidge of jealous and fear of losing each other it would seem like you don’t see each other as something worth keeping?
Either way, it wouldn’t be fair you just telling your GF it’s fine, she is rightly suspicious. Plus when ever you were to wear it it would be a reminder to her, so you wouldn’t wear it often, so what’s the point owning it?
I wouldn’t make a big deal of it, there’s no point in embarrassing this other girl at school, it was a nice gesture, and society doesn’t reward being enough for being nice, she sure as hell shouldn’t be punished for it. Offer to buy it, otherwise return it to her saying you can’t accept, it wouldn’t be appropriate and it makes your GF uncomfortable.
She wants you and is trying to push your girlfriend out. She sees potential in you getting signed to play in college. It is definitely inappropriate