My partner was a virgin before we married. I wasn’t, but I also was not highly experienced (one previous partner). So.. here I am, browsing the sub.
1- how often do you stop especially after the male orgasms (too quickly at times)? What’s the recovery period? I see some people say they had sex 2..3..6… hours. Yeah… uhhh… how? Lol
2- does anyone have any resources (books, porn links- I don’t really care) to teach my partner the female anatomy and how to initiate foreplay? Sex Ed for adult type? He’s too shy to listen to me. I can’t even have a conversation about sex without him laughing uncontrollably like a child and it’s really annoying. Hell read/watch though…
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Look up Alex Allman of revolutionary sex.
1. Sex for hours doesn’t meaning actively pumping for hours lol. It just means there’s a sexual high throughout, where after you cum, during the recovery period (be it male or female) you’re still expecting to keep going, and also you continue to stimulate and arouse each other. When you stop is when, ok I’m all tapped out. Like you might go again in an hour even, but there was no maintaining the arousal until then, do those are separate.
How you keep going for hours is you switch positions, divide the workload as it were, and then do oral, and then slow down and be more sensual, etc.
2. No. The best teacher is your partner. And I don’t mean sit him down like a cool boy and bring out your chart of the clitoris. I mean during sex, keep the lines of communication open, and express to each other what you like and what you want. He’s too shy to initiate, he’ll get over that with some positive reinforcement from you, and experience in general in being with you.
I had sex for hours when I was younger. Could even keep going after orgasm. Pull off used condom, wipe dick off, new condom, reinsert. That was my early 20s. Haven’t been able to do that for years. Even if I could, my wife would not be happy. PIV sex isn’t actually supposed to be hours without stopping. It gets painful. Ideally, hours long sex would include all kinds of foreplay and other stimulation and end with explosive orgasms together.
When i have sex for hours (2-3 hours) its normally a lot off oral and teasing. Actual piv is around 30min – 1h.
Make it a “game” maybe?
This night its all about me. You can use me as you would like, but you are not allowed to orgasm.
And then you can do the same for him.
This will probably make him explore your body, without being insecure. (Be vocal when he is doing the right things).
if you know your partners body and cues, you can figure out about where they are in their arousal (are they turned on? are they close to orgasm? how close?) and what things turn their arousal up, down, or keep it around the same level (does oral push him right to the edge, or just keep him hard? does him going down on you keep him aroused, arouse him more, or does he start going soft? etc) and you can try to prolong things from there.
men typically get aroused faster and women tend to take longer to warm up. so start with making sure the focus is on you before he gets too wound up. have him give you a massage, kiss all over your body, etc. he shouldn’t even be going NEAR your pussy until you’re already fully aroused and wet. then he should be going down on you. Then try switching to 69 when you’re ready for him to start warming up too. if you want the sex to last, you’ll have to change positions frequently and back off when he’s getting too close to orgasm. make him go down on you for a bit, or move back to making out, maybe switch locations, like move to the kitchen floor, the couch, a table… have him lick chocolate off your body, or play a game. set a timer where he can only be inside you for a minute, then you have to stop for 3 minutes and do something else. just keep edging until you can’t last anymore.
after he comes, do something sexy while waiting for him to be ready to go again. lay naked together, watch porn, read erotica, take a shower and wash each other’s bodies, lick food off each other, talk about fantasies, etc. or have him continue going down on you, fingering you, etc.
a good way to go about this to get him on board and engaged could be a bucket list. tell him you want to have a fantasy sex night, make a list together of everything you want to try. make sure he knows it’s going to be a marathon. make it fun, get some wine, sexy snacks to eat off each other, dress up in lingerie, light some candles. make sure some of the things on the list are foreplay things for you. you could add things like sitting on his face, having him eat you out from behind, having him go down on you in the shower, having him lick whipped cream off your tits or tummy (no food on the pussy!!), having him finger you in front of a window or in the car, etc. just add things that put the focus on your body, but make it a sexy game for him.
Also, having the list should help keep him engaged in continuing even after he cums. if he knows that round 2 is going to have a kink he’s excited to try (maybe role play, spanking, ass play, exhibitionism, etc) he might be more interested in getting hard again and going again.