What are you doing to fix men’s issues?

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1. Talk about them more like we do women’s issues and start movements to combat the problems.

2. I make sure to check on the homies and make sure they know that I’m here for them no matter what they’re going through, and that feeling emotions as a man makes you human, not a pussy.

3. I help organize and facilitate a couple of support groups for men. One regarding combatting trauma in healthy ways, and the other helping men who have committed abuse against others rehabilitate their behaviour.

4. I take responsibility for my own mental health, have never been and would never tolerate being a DV victim, and I don’t have kids, so the third point isn’t relavent to me.

   I mean, what’s more “manly” than not whining, owning your shit, and dealing with it yourself?

   If other dudes want to ask me for advice or to suggest resources, I’m game. But I’m not going to solve your problems for you. I’m too busy being a man and solving my own.

5. If you ignore mental health issues because you’re a guy then that’s a personal choice not the patriarchy / masculinity keeping you down, I have my issues and I’m getting them sorted by professionals.

   For the others, that would require system change. Liberal men are too docile and conservatives don’t like changing things, so stuck on that one.

6. I tend to object to on-line anti-men posts. I try to vote against politicians who push feminazi agendas. I don’t buy from corporations who have political anti-men agendas.

7. Absolutely nothing. It isn’t my job or in my capabilities to fix mens issues. All I can do each day is work to be a better father, husband, man, and friend to my friends and family, as applicable.

8. Went insane and careless, that helps ‘>’

9. I listen and learn first. Understanding the problems is the first step to fixing it.

10. I find that the parties who genuinely care about these issues are the same ones that support more marginalized groups and stand up against racism and hatred. People that push for trans rights usually are more aware of and supportive of men’s mental health as well. I roll with these folks and sympathize with those with a more difficult path than I’ve had. A lot of the people that complain about men’s rights don’t actually give a shit about equal rights, they just hate that other groups get attention.

11. I try to learn things myself and then teach other guys in an empathetic manner.

    Mostly irl, because that’s where I can serve as a day to day role model.

    It’s quite rewarding because those men also learn to recognize when I’m off-track and aren’t afraid to tell me.

    The most important ‘mirror’ in my life right now is my little from the Big Brothers Big Sisters program.

    We matched when he was 9 and he’s in his mid 20’s now. We work together and he challenges me to grow all the time.

12. Living and leading by example for my two boys. My wife and I aren’t perfect but we have a great relationship. Showing our children how we love and treat each other is a solid step in the right direction.

13. Been knitting hats and mittens for homeless men’s and hand them out in fall and winter, sadly the nearest men’s shelter to me is an hour away and only has 15 beds live in the upper mid west were winter can hit -40°

14. If Bill burr thought me something it’s that you just bottle it all up and try as hard as you can to be a functional psychopath.

15. I didn’t circumcise my son, and acted appalled at anyone who suggested IRL that I should.

    I gladly take my daughter out just the two of us and accept any PDA she wants, causing plenty of interesting encounters with meddling Karens.

    And I often comment on Reddit to point out when people are being sexist about men.

16. Lead by example; which mostly involves not caring and continuing to be me

17. Just say I m fine, bite my tongue and hope for the best. If I say something it will be used against me later. I also drink to much.

18. I send an ambulance to any call for domestic abuse so that the men aren’t automatically assumed as and carted away as the abuser and are actually given a change to express they are being abused. The Duluth Model being rolled in to police policies in many areas has cops just arresting men. Now if only RAIN could reverse all the damage they did in closing mens shelters.

19. I just be nice to people. I know I could be a jerk if I really wanted to but I know I don’t want to be the bad guy in anybody’s story. I know that sounds cheap just being nice but that’s what I do.

20. I donate to a program that goes into schools and teaches boys how to express their masculinity in emotionally healthy ways.

21. Nothing because I have no power to change these things.