First relationship so everything is new (Im 20M my gf is 20F). Cant come from blowjob even though it feels amazingly good, my gf did it for like 30+ minutes I was shaking like crazy, my body was even numb after, but I still couldnt cum is this normal? I don’t masturbate a lot, like once a day or at most 2 times, often go days without masturbating too. Now when in a relationship barely masturbate at all. I come from masturbation usually after 10-40 minutes depending on how slow I want to take it. When we had sex I could come, but it was still hard and took a while like 20-30 minutes (I was nervous so probably that).
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Give it time, friend. You were anxious and probably a little overwhelmed from the sensations. You also have a partner who’s still learning what you like and how to best light that fuse.
Just go into it with the goal of enjoying it, not necessarily getting off immediately. Your brain plays a huge role in orgasm.
To get this out of the way: are you on antidepressants? They tend to have this effect, especially in sex — with masturbation, you can always ‘game yourself’ and reach the finish line.
Other than that, if you were anxious, your pelvic muscles could have been so tight, they wouldn’t allow for an ejaculation.
I’m sure you were nervous. Try to just lay back, close your eyes, and focus on the feeling of pleasure. I bet you will cum if you don’t even focus on the cumming part ☺️
Make sure she uses her hands too. Many men can’t come from just mouth stimulation. Use the mouth for the lubrication and the hands for the stimulation. If it keeps taking you 30 minutes she’s going to eventually hate it.