How did you get over something that you never thought you would or could get over?

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1. Time, distance, experience.

2. Time as annoying as it sounds

3. patience and time are essentials

4. I’ve survived some pretty tragic circumstances, between being shunned by my fundy religious parents, losing my best friend to a rare cancer, family suicide, estrangement between all my relatives, being cheated on by two boyfriends (one boyfriend cheated with my close friend), growing up in what was effectively a religious cult and witnessing some other pretty horrendous things that I won’t get into… I honestly thought I would die of a broken heart at times it was just so much to deal with in my twenties.

   Some things in life are enormously painful, but yet the bitter and somewhat relieving truth is that life goes on. Time ticks forward, and somehow that pain subsides. I’m not sure it goes away, you just learn to live with it really. There are times when you feel particularly vulnerable and some of that pain comes rushing back in an acute way. But for the most part it kind of attaches to you in a way that turns you into a more complex and interesting person… and soon you find out others have this same complexity to them and the world suddenly seems less lonely because its full of people who feel pain and suffering just as we did.

   It’s a strange thing to grieve I find, because we only grieve deeply because we’ve loved deeply. It is love in action, even in the most horrendous breakup or medical nightmare there is some comfort to be had in the fact that you gave it your all and cared for that person very deeply. It is much better to risk heartache than to cocoon your heart in a safe and untouchable place so that you might never be hurt.

5. Time and depending on the situation always making sure that I’m maintaining myself and occupying myself with other hobbies/activities.